Ok, update time.
I did think about a way to set her up at work but she’s a field engineer and always on the go. The current setup seems to work pretty well.
We’re doing I Love Sex Husband and His Happiness Husband.
I’ve noticed that her libido is increasing. One day this week she got really worked up and I brought her to orgasm. She didn’t have the energy to continue, but I happily said I’d let her make itup to me later. The next day conspired against us and no sex that day. That night she had a nightmare that she’d displeased me so mightily that she’d lost me entirely. She’s made sure to step up her game since then. There has been an increase in oral and she’s been doing problem solving to make sure my needs are met despite energy/fatigue issues.
I’m not wild about the nightmare but it looks like her mindis processing and moving in the right direction. I held her when she woke up and told her thatas long as I see effort on her part she doesn’t need to be terribly worried about her nightmare scenario.
I have been reading some great postings in the submissive script thread and it got me thinking about pronouns.
Right now my term of endearment is sweetie and I would like to move away from that.
I am struggling a bit with “entry level” pronouns for her that will gently move her towards selflessness – both in scripts and in “real life”
Good girl, Doll, Pet, Other Suggestions ?
honey bubble
sweet thing
love puppy
matress kitten
sweet cheeks
sugar
honey bun
toy
my little (whatever)
sweets
sweet lips
baby
baby girl
girl / puppy / kitten
little one
sexy
sexy one
wiggles
cuddle pie
snuggles
Eldrin’s got it right. For the purposes of most of us, isochronic is the way to go. However, I would say use them sparingly. Entrainment tends to lose effectiveness if it’s overused. The brain gets used to it and adapts. If you are able to convince her to listen to a “relaxation track” (similar in prinicple to the platinum recordings) then that would be a place where I would (and have) used isochronic and binaural tones. Using them in a constantly running track… I don’t have empirical data, but my research says it’ll lose effectiveness before long.
And to you question about “stepping stones”.
I have, in a sense, reconstituted the “list” and will use those as goals.
But I have no intention of developing my wife into a “slave”.
Use her body for my pleasure, absolutely. But I would like for her to get some of that back too.
Have her submit to anything I ask, heck yeah. But if she is right an I am wrong, I will change my view to be right.
Now I fully realize that much of what I want in a relationship, as described in one of the spoilers, in the post above, would be considered slavery by some people, though it is just logic to me.
So to many people, I AM trying to enslave my wife.
But, I want something else as well. I want everything she knows and is, to be available to me in living life, taking care of my family as if it were actually a part of me. That means I cannot dismiss all she actually knows that I do not, the experiences she has had that I have not and all she is wiser in than I am in. I just have to be honest and wise enough to discern when that is to give my endeavors and those of my family the greatest chance of success.
I don’t have the full mind workstation, but I do have and use the Neuro-Programmer software, and that’s pretty good. Not only can it do binaural tones, it can also do isochronic tones, which is much more useful for our purposes. Isochronic tones set up entrainment using what amounts to an interference pattern in the sound. Unlike binaural, isochronic doesn’t require left-right separation in order to be effective. If you want a good entrainment program, go for the Neuro-Programmer, since you can do everything else with the tools mentioned above.
The missus has be come a lot more easygoing/pliant. She seems to be a lot more accepting of whatever activity I pursue. Not a lot of opportunity to push the sex angle but we’ll see what happens in the next few days.
Speaking of which, my frame and SimplyVibe speaker came. I loaded the frame with pictures of our travels and the week 3 playlist (converter, I Love Sex Husband, and His Happiness Husband) and had it on her nightstand when she came home from work. She absolutely loved it and practically attacked me with a kiss. No dimmer function that I’ve found, but she just puts the picture frame face-down to sleep, which just exposes the speaker more. Life is good. This happened on Friday.
I’ve found that my computer can’t handle microSD (hardware is there, but Blue Screens the computer if I try :-/), so I used my tablet to copy the files from main memory onto a small microSD. I have yet to test it out, but that little speaker has punch!
I’ve been playing His Happiness and the Converter pretty much non-stop to her for the last few days.
The good: She’s now sleeping on her other side, with her head angled towards the source of the subliminals. She’s also been more attentive in general lately.
The bad: I think we’re going through an adjustment period for the His Happiness. She was really tired at first and was a little snappy today, but she broke out of it quickly once I brought it to her attention.
I’ve decided to keep my main journal here as I’d want to be able to read it and the forums were a big part of my decision to pull the trigger. Anything Gold-related is going to go into a separate thread, but I don’t have anything like that yet.
This is a good compilation of tips, Eldrin. One of the first things I did was edit the metadata so that if the missus happens to look at the player, she’ll just see (seemingly) random characters.
I’m looking forward to re-doing the scripts I’m using as soon as I can get my hands on the voices. I’ll try out that 90hz nyquist setting as well. Good info regarding the reading speed.
I’ve yet to make a silent subliminal myself but from what I’m reading, yes the custom ones are silent or at least quiet enough that they fade into the background unnoticed.
Thanks for that info. I’ll definitely be giving that a try then. Not right away as I’m crazy busy at the moment. Exciting that we’ve hit the week mark and tonight we’ll be adding the His Happiness Husband to the mix. I’d actually prefer if it was a tad less silent as in the usage of speakers it’d be easier to verify if they’re transmitting or not, especially with the SimplyVibe mentioned above.
That’s really awesome info, seekenq! Thanks. How long do the batteries on the SimplyVibe last? Amazon says 6 hours but I’m not sure how much juice the silent subliminals use. I’m going to save up and get a picture frame or two and the SimplyVibe.
A question on the 90 hz nyquist: I’ve read the thread on them but I’m still lacking in understanding: Are they still silent (or silent-ish)?
The forums, especially the Gold Forums and Journals, is really more of a support group than a simple forum. A support group for lost men who want to retake their marriage and guide it towards happier shores for both.
The overwhelming truth of this statement cannot be overstated.
I’ll have to look into that book. And definitely try the nickels.
May I recommend Imaginative Sex by John Norman? There’s a lot of roleplay scenarios, almost all of them D/s to one degree or another.
