URGENT Need help training a girl who is unsatisfed

[ztshp]

10/09/2012 at 10:24 pm

Hello Im in urgent need of assistance a girl who i have been talking with and trying to be a better master for, she is unsatisfied with how we have been, she is even on this site so i need major help please

[Hypnoticcontagion]

10/10/2012 at 1:27 pm

Hello,

First the good news, it’s good to see you want to become a better Master for your girl. Now for the bad news, posting about your issues in a public forum practically right in front of her is bad form.

You and your girl need to talk. These subliminal files aren’t magic. They require both parties to work effectively. You both need to discuss what you want from the relationship and begin making small steps to accommodate the other.

Being a Master is and should be so much more than ‘give the submissive an order, submissive obeys. It is a responsibility. If your girl is unsatisfied, no file will automatically fix that. You need to speak with her and find out what she needs from you so that she can fulfill her part in this relationship.

I know it’s probably not what you wanted. It’s not what this site sells. Relationships take work though. If both parties work at it, the results are well worth it.

[ztshp]

10/10/2012 at 7:51 pm

still I am looking for help to see what I can do

[Fizbin]

10/11/2012 at 12:02 pm

Agree with the previous poster. The issue isn’t trying harder to dominate her, but in being someone worthy of her submission. To that effect, it is very hard for us to help you without knowing what your weaknesses (perceived or actual) are…

That said, the fact that you’re looking for help is a good thing. There are one or two files targeted to help you find your inner self confidence, but you might also try searching the web for help on being an alpha male. Or, if you’re feeling totally hopeless, try this:

http://www.heartless-bitches.com/rants/niceguys/spineless.shtml

[Islander711]

10/11/2012 at 5:28 pm

Very informative article.

[ztshp]

10/11/2012 at 10:29 pm

things I think have gotten better because I think she realizes im trying to improve myself for her

[ztshp]

01/07/2013 at 12:30 am

wrong i was so wrong,

[Fizbin]

01/07/2013 at 3:58 pm

Still a bit low on detail. Wrong in what way? That things were getting better? Or in the behavior you had prior to coming here?

[trainer81]

01/17/2013 at 5:06 pm

Sounds like this girl wants to be submissive but seems she wasn’t born this way.

Trainer81

[DedicatedMaster]

01/18/2013 at 1:15 am

Maybe I’ve just not met a lot of people, but I find it actually somewhat rare to come across a girl who wants to be submissive, right off the bat. When they get to know you better, then they can relax and mention things like the desire to be dominated.

[trainer81]

01/18/2013 at 7:50 pm

I think, in this case, the girl wants to be submissive, but Ztshp wasn’t the right person to be her dominant. A relationship like that requires a good “fit” between the sub and dom; without it, there can be no trust and therefore no true power exchange.

[DedicatedMaster]

01/19/2013 at 5:33 pm

That makes a lot of sense ani.

[trainer81]

07/24/2013 at 8:59 pm

@DedicatedMaster said:
Maybe I’ve just not met a lot of people, but I find it actually somewhat rare to come across a girl who wants to be submissive, right off the bat. When they get to know you better, then they can relax and mention things like the desire to be dominated.

Agreed it my girl time to open up to me as well. Submission don’t happen right away