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  • April 13, 2016 at 7:27 am #0
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    04/13/2016 at 7:27 am

    Hi all

    So I thought I would post here to gain ideas and others thoughts.

    Some weeks back my wife had announce to me that she wanted to separate.

    Bit of a shock – yes – but then I started to think about what things I could do to try and turn things around.

    I have been a member for some time but not really ever posted before and since no man is an Island I thought to put this out there and see what others thoughts are.

    Basically the relationship has been without sex for some time and now pretty much views me as a ‘friend’ rather than a husband and so the feelings are no longer there.

    The relationship is more complex, but I am not sure we really need to get in to the details. This is where I am at.

    I contacted Trainer81 for a custom, which he has been fantastic at helping be put together. Basically the premise is that a relationship starts with a good friendship and that it all needs to start small and slow. Which I completely agree with.

    The silent is playing in various places around the home now for over a month, at this point, all I can say is that we a pretty friendly, still joking around and the like. I can see that the silent is certainly not doing any harm. Probably more use of ‘pet’ names than before.

    It seems like very small positive progress.

    I’m happy to share the custom that was created if Trainer81 is cool with that.

    I guess for me personally I am trying to keep it all cool as a cucumber, being as friendly as possible, but also getting on with my own things.

    Are there any thoughts on how you can add to what I am already doing?

    Anyhow thanks for letting be vent!

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    04/13/2016 at 3:22 pm

    Sure feel free to share it πŸ™‚ I hope things are going good for you.

    Trainer81

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    04/14/2016 at 12:36 pm

    So Trainer81, I was looking at the sleep hypno eBook.

    I am curious, after you ensure she is in deep sleep what is the message format you give her?

    For example would it be similar to the scripts?

    And how do you close off the ‘session’ once you’re finished?

    Another question on the statement at the start you use the word “can’t”. Doesn’t the subconscious ignore the negative, or is it different stories for this?

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    04/16/2016 at 2:01 am

    Hmm that didn’t quite paste right…try again.

    So here is the silent that is being used:

    You want to be with MR.

    I enjoy initiate sex with MR, my Husband.

    I love MR, my Husband.

    I have feelings for MR.

    You want to have initiate sex with MR, your Husband.

    I have feelings for MR.

    I love MR, my Husband.

    I have feelings for MR.

    I want to have sex with MR, my Husband.

    I have feelings for MR.

    I love MR, my Husband.

    My Wife and I have a good relationship.

    I love my wife MRS.

    I have feelings for MRS.

    I want to be with MRS.

    I have feelings for MRS.

    I enjoy initiate sex with MRS, your wife.

    You want to have initiate sex with MRS, your wife.

    I love MRS, my Wife.

    I have feelings for MRS.

    You want to have initiate sex with MRS, your Wife.

    I love MRS, my Wife.

    I have feelings for MRS.

    I want to have sex with MRS, my Wife.

    I love MRS, my Wife.

    MR love’s MRS.

    You want to be with MRS.

    MRS my wife means everything to me.


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    04/17/2016 at 10:11 pm

    It looks ok. Does she still want to separate and do you have more sex now?

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    04/18/2016 at 9:12 am

    Hi Tap

    No change. Very firmly in the we are separated mindset. Though we are continuing quite a friendly relationship.

    I think it will be a long and slow process which is fine. I just want to be sure I’m doing all I can I guess and share thoughts with others more experienced than I.

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    04/19/2016 at 3:14 am

    What I see is an attempt to treat the symptom, which can be helpful, but isn’t the most effective way to create a long-term positive trend. Perhaps a few more of those details we don’t “really need to get in to” could help us fine tune a script to address the underlying issue(s).

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    04/19/2016 at 11:21 am

    Maybe a couple of comments along the lines of getting her to talk about your problems. Can’t fix what you can’t find, know what I mean? Like

    I want to talk to my husband about our problems.
    I really want to talk about our problems with him.
    I must talk about our problems with him right away.

    THEN talk with her constructively when she is ready and edit the script appropriately.

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    04/20/2016 at 3:12 am

    Hi Fitzbin

    Fair enough, so here goes warts ‘n all…

    I pretty much place myself square on for where we are at today, when we got married, I was not really in to the relationship. You could say that it was a loveless marriage. Clearly I had (and still do) have things to work on and I am not afraid to say so.

    This continued for quite a few years, my wife tried and always commented how she really loved me. As time went on (unsurprisingly) this desire she had faded. Meanwhile we unexpectedly had a son, which would put an even larger strain on the relationship (besides the self-induced one I created) because as we found out over the years our son has a severe disability. This puts a great pressure on a relationship, and finally it was all too much to bear and we actually separated. That separation is different to today, quite different actually. It was very intense, lots of resentment, negativity and bitter feelings – none of which is a surprise. It was a huge eye opener for me to say the least.

    I actually was determined to change things, and try and turn the relationship around, which I did – that is to say, we became a couple again to try and start afresh. Mending relationships and starting over is a pretty difficult thing to do with all that history and the added pressure of a special needs child – there is no sense of a ‘normal life’. The desire my wife once had really never did get restored, we had sex on and off, but it never did gain momentum. The relationship faded to friendship and ultimately I can see how it all plays a part in the current situation. Interestingly (for what it’s worth), this second separation is quite a different experience from that of the first. Our relationship can be described as good friends. Maybe she is trying to be extra friendly so that we sail past this difficult time in our lives easier? She is honest and I believe we actually are good friends.

    So there you have it, the deep unfettered truth.

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    04/22/2016 at 5:58 am

    OK so I have switched to this script for now:

    MR and I are ment to be together.

    I want to be with MR, my Husband.

    We are ment to be together.

    I love MR with all my heart.

    MR and I are ment to together.

    I can’t live without MR.

    MR loves me, and I love MR.

    You love MR.

    You want to be with MR.

    MR loves you.

    I want to be with MR.

    You want MR to be part of your life.

    I want MR in my life.

    MR and I belong together.

    Being with MR is wonderful.

    MR is my Husband and I love him.

    Your Husband is MR, and you love him.

    MR is a wonderful man.

    You love MR.

    MR is the only one for me.

    You love MR.

    MR is the man of my dreams.

    You love MR.

    MR and I have an open and trusting relationship.

    I love MR.

    Have an open and trusting relationship with MR.

    You love MR.

    MR and I have an open and trusting relationship.

    I love MR.

    Have an open and trusting relationship with MR.

    You love MR.

    MR and I have an open and trusting relationship.

    I love MR.

    Have an open and trusting relationship with MR.

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    04/22/2016 at 6:01 am

    @oldfart said:

    Maybe a couple of comments along the lines of getting her to talk about your problems. Can’t fix what you can’t find, know what I mean? Like

    I want to talk to my husband about our problems.
    I really want to talk about our problems with him.
    I must talk about our problems with him right away.

    THEN talk with her constructively when she is ready and edit the script appropriately.

    This is also a great idea. Will keep this in mind for the next attempt.

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    04/22/2016 at 11:28 am

    This is quite a bit of history, and to try and undo it is probably a very long road ahead, which subliminal therapy may supplement, but may not be enough to go the distance.

    One thing that may help is to have affirmations stating different (positive) things that she sees in you and desires. Include both that it is a general desire, and also that you fulfill it for her. Maybe tie this back to aspects that she originally found attractive in you early in the relationship.

    But I also agree that you need to actually BE these things of her desire. Just stating things subliminally that are contrary to observable facts will not hide the truth.

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    04/23/2016 at 10:20 am

    Its surprising what a dozen roses can do…

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    04/23/2016 at 10:42 am

    @oldfart said:

    Its surprising what a dozen roses can do…

    Ties into what I meant. He needs to BE the lover of her dreams (aka subconscious), not just tell her that he is. πŸ™‚

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    04/23/2016 at 4:06 pm

    Thats what I had in mind.


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    04/24/2016 at 12:52 am

    Tichi,

    If I were you, I’d come in strong with my affirmations. Some that say you’re the master, in charge, she’s submissive, completely obeys you and is happy doing all this. Then when you demand that you stay together, she’ll obey you and be happy with it.

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    04/25/2016 at 2:30 am

    Yea I am not sure given that we are separated how to actually BE the lover as suggested. All I can actually think of is going down the path of trying to rebuild the relationship. Which I guess is what the subliminals are about.

    Then of course there is Taps suggestion, which I gotta say is intriguing to say the least. Would it not push her further away? Given we are good friends and resentment seems a thing of the past…

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    04/25/2016 at 10:42 am

    So, for this separation, just how “separated” are you at this point?
    Are you still living in the same house? If not, how are you supplying the subliminal influence?

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    04/25/2016 at 1:51 pm

    Heya Fizbin

    Yeah we live in the same house. Since we have a disabled son it takes two to stay sane. She will lock the doors when she is changing or taking a shower a clear indicator to stay out.

    We eat, cook, go for drives, cafe together. We talk and joke – to an outsider you’d never know we are separated. We agreed to go for walks after work to get more energy and general well being. We generally still go out for dinner Friday nights (which used to be date night)

    Great friends and friend zoned I guess it’s best described as.

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    04/26/2016 at 4:17 am

    I am currently playing the second custom. This has been running for around 3 days now.

    Volume levels were taken by playing a rain file setting the volume and going from there.

    Typically though the portable tablet/phone is max volume.

    Number of different devices in a number of different areas in the house. All playing the same second custom.

    She mentioned that she always takes negative situations to heart and it overrides any good things that have happened. She has only come to realise this.

    She also came to realise that she can’t help but be a “carer” for everyone (growing up thing) and will use up all her energy to exhaustion trying to look after everyone.

    I tend to agree with the both statements above, she does tend to over think things too.

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    04/27/2016 at 3:39 am

    Being a natural “carer” is good, and can probably be reinforced and expanded through script affirmations.
    A few quick questions:
    Is she very religious?
    Did you use traditional vows? (Love, Honor, and Obey) If not, were they close?
    In general, how seriously does she take her own word?


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    04/27/2016 at 3:58 am

    I don’t know too much about you or your relationship, but I will just give my opinion based on what you have said. It’s an assessment that may make you think.

    The idea that you are friend-zoned to me means that she is the alpha and you are the beta. You follow what she does and how she wants to run your relationship. You have to switch the roles to regain the power. You must be the dominant alpha and lead her back in this relationship while she, the beta submissive follows.

    You can do two things to achieve this, but it will take awhile. I recommend you yourself listen to your own subliminals to become more dominant, confident, and authoritative. At the same time, you have to make her change her thinking to be more submissive to you as the dominant. I recommend a script like below for her, which has worked for me and takes a lot of different affirmations from Trainer’s scripts. Below is the bulk of my foundation file, personalized for you:

    My husband Tichi is my master.

    My husband Tichi is my king.

    My husband Tichi is my boss.

    My husband Tichi has complete control over me.

    My husband Tichi is superior over me.

    My husband Tichi is dominant over me.

    My husband Tichi has authority over me.

    My husband Tichi is in charge of me.

    My husband Tichi makes decisions for me.

    I always show respect to my husband Tichi.

    I am submissive to my husband Tichi.

    I like being submissive to my husband Tichi.

    I am happy being submissive to my husband Tichi.

    I love being my husband Tichi’s submissive wife.

    My fantasy is being my husband Tichi’s submissive wife.

    I do everything my husband Tichi says.

    I follow my husband Tichi’s orders.

    I love to obey my husband Tichi.

    I am happy to obey my husband Tichi.

    God commands me to obey my husband Tichi.

    My purpose in life is to obey my husband Tichi.

    I always obey my husband Tichi.

    I enjoy pleasing my husband Tichi.

    I like to satisfy my husband Tichi’s desires.

    I love making my husband Tichi happy.

    I need to do everything to keep my husband Tichi happy.

    My greatest desire is to make my husband Tichi happy.

    My priority in life is to make my husband Tichi happy.

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    04/27/2016 at 9:01 am

    Fizbin,

    As for carer she has come to a realisation it’s an issue and is trying to change. I guess it’s still there tho which is the point you’re making.

    Religion full on Christian with the love, honour, obey vows. No sex before marriage. Having said that no longer practicing (not going to church), dissolutioned with it all. She would never had meditated before whereas now she does. I will get some of the affirmations she meditates on I noticed in her book.

    Still I think she still has Christianity in her deep down, but it’s very much deep down and not part of her life today.

    I do trust her when she says stuff. I would trust her to look after my affairs for example or our child. She can be choosey what she says mainly if it’s conflict related (e.g. over our relationship)

    There is often intent to do something say I will organise something and it falls through the cracks and doesn’t get done. Perhaps self sabotage or just too busy/tired. I know we’ve had arguments over this on the past. Things she feels are not so important.

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    04/27/2016 at 12:32 pm

    Tap,

    Wow. Thank you so much for sharing your script.

    As you say (and I previously mentioned) lots to think about.

    I can see exactly what you’re saying re friend zone. To placate her I have kind of become a follower it is true and clearly isn’t getting me anywhere.

    I guess my thoughts are, how do you actually turn it around without it raising resentment? Do you just play the files and let things progress naturally? How do you then also know it’s working and I suppose assist the process?

    I can imagine it taking many months (which is fine). I know that everyone is different in both accepting such messages and depending where they’re starting from too.

    I do listen to all the same silents and this one would be no exception. After all I’d like to improve myself too otherwise there’s no point.

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    04/27/2016 at 2:13 pm

    So I had a look at the guided meditation she does every day. Listens to some mp3 and then inserts herself some of the lines below.

    I don’t know how I:

    Am so toned and fit
    Am beautiful
    Experience exhilaration regularly
    Have such a great circle of fun and supportive friends
    Create the ideal love
    Have such a loving and kind family
    Enjoy regular exciting and relaxing holidays
    Face new challenges and become better and stronger
    Have such a beautiful home
    Am so confident
    Am so healthy
    Have abundant energy
    Have such firm, kind control over all my relationships

    (These were probably before we separated)
    Look and feel so young
    Am so happy in my life
    Have such a passionate, deeply loving connection with my partner

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    04/27/2016 at 10:10 pm

    Just a quick note this morning she went to kiss me goodbye and stopped short. It is probably a habbit from previous times.


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    04/28/2016 at 3:35 am

    @Tichi said:

    Tap,

    Wow. Thank you so much for sharing your script.

    As you say (and I previously mentioned) lots to think about.

    I can see exactly what you’re saying re friend zone. To placate her I have kind of become a follower it is true and clearly isn’t getting me anywhere.

    I guess my thoughts are, how do you actually turn it around without it raising resentment? Do you just play the files and let things progress naturally? How do you then also know it’s working and I suppose assist the process?

    I can imagine it taking many months (which is fine). I know that everyone is different in both accepting such messages and depending where they’re starting from too.

    I do listen to all the same silents and this one would be no exception. After all I’d like to improve myself too otherwise there’s no point.

    You could start with just playing that for her and waiting. Eventually, she will start to defer to you in making decisions and want you to lead. Once that happens, then you can tell her you want to get back and start over.

    Right now, it seems like she decides what to do in your relationship and most of it is her way. You have to reverse that type of thinking in her through the subliminals. I’m positive if you play such a subliminal then you will see her change for the better toward you. I’d say it would take at least a month of playing it every day and night to start seeing a change in her.

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    04/28/2016 at 10:27 pm

    Thanks. I am looking at the process of creating the file now.

    From other posts I think you found that phones and tablets worked better with higher amp value (-22 as opposed to -44) cause they’re such small devices. Anyhow I’ll look more into that too.

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    04/29/2016 at 12:14 pm

    Here is a script that has multiple elements that you can pick and choose from as you are building things up. Many of these affirmations focus on overall marriage behavior rather than just submission. In particular, there are several lines that focus on her vows and relationship with you and God that might be useful in your case…

    This is your inner voice.
    You want to listen to my voice.
    This is my inner voice.
    These words are my thoughts.

    I have always felt this way.

    You need to listen.
    I always listen to my inner voice.
    My inner voice is soothing.
    I am happy to believe my inner voice.

    I always listen to my inner voice.
    My inner voice helps me improve myself.
    I am happy to believe my inner voice.

    I made a Vow to God.
    I will love honor and obey my husband.
    My Vows are for Better or for Worse.

    You need to be a good wife.
    I want to be a better wife for {YourNameHere}.
    I will love honor and obey my husband.

    You love {YourNameHere} more than anything.
    I am in love with my husband {YourNameHere}.

    I will love my husband.

    I love {YourNameHere}.

    Pleasing {YourNameHere} serves God.

    Serving {YourNameHere} pleases God.

    I am a sexual partner.
    You crave your husband.
    I am {YourNameHere}’s lover.
    My husband can have me any time.

    Your body belongs to {YourNameHere}.
    I enjoy showing off my body to {YourNameHere}.

    I dress in sexy clothes for {YourNameHere}.

    I come to bed naked when I sleep with {YourNameHere}.

    I love sex with {YourNameHere}.
    You are hungry for {YourNameHere}’s cock.
    I fantasize about {YourNameHere} when I play with myself.

    I want to have sex with {YourNameHere}.

    Sex with {YourNameHere} makes me happy.

    Your breasts ache for {YourNameHere}.
    I crave {YourNameHere}’s touch.
    I am aroused just thinking of {YourNameHere}.
    I need sex with {YourNameHere}.

    You want {YourNameHere} right now.
    Pleasing my husband feels so good.

    I am a sexual partner.
    I am {YourNameHere}’s lover.
    You want {YourNameHere}.
    My husband can have me any time.

    I enjoy showing off my body to {YourNameHere}.

    I dress in sexy clothes for {YourNameHere}.

    I come to bed naked when I sleep with {YourNameHere}.

    Your pussy is hungry.
    I love sex with {YourNameHere}.
    I fantasize about {YourNameHere} when I play with myself.

    I want to have sex with {YourNameHere}.
    You need {YourNameHere} now.

    Sex with {YourNameHere} makes me happy.

    I crave {YourNameHere}’s touch.
    You want your arms around {YourNameHere}.
    I am aroused just thinking of {YourNameHere}.

    You live to please {YourNameHere}.
    Pleasing my husband feels so good.

    I am a sexual partner.
    I am {YourNameHere}’s lover.
    My husband can have me any time.

    I enjoy showing off my body to {YourNameHere}.

    I dress in sexy clothes for {YourNameHere}.

    I come to bed naked when I sleep with {YourNameHere}.

    I love sex with {YourNameHere}.
    I fantasize about {YourNameHere} when I play with myself.

    You are getting really turnd on.
    I want to have sex with {YourNameHere}.

    Sex with {YourNameHere} makes me happy.

    I crave {YourNameHere}’s touch.
    I am aroused just thinking of {YourNameHere}.

    Pleasing my husband feels so good.

    I will honor my husband.

    My husband is my whole world.
    I trust {YourNameHere} completely.

    I want what my husband wants.
    I accept {YourNameHere}’s decisions.

    Your first duty is to your husband.
    I always listen to my husband.
    {YourNameHere} knows what is best for me.

    My husband comes first.
    {YourNameHere} deserves my respect.

    You are proud of {YourNameHere}.
    I always speak well of my husband.
    {YourNameHere} is the best husband I could ever have.

    You need {YourNameHere} to guide you.
    I am lost without {YourNameHere}.

    You want to be with {YourNameHere}.
    I am lonely without {YourNameHere}.

    {YourNameHere} fills you with love.
    I am empty without {YourNameHere}.

    I am lost without {YourNameHere}.

    I am lonely without {YourNameHere}.

    I am empty without {YourNameHere}.

    I am lost without {YourNameHere}.

    I am lonely without {YourNameHere}.

    I am empty without {YourNameHere}.

    I will Obey my husband.

    You need to be a good girl.
    I always obey {YourNameHere}.

    I am {YourNameHere}’s helpmeet.

    A good wife is submissive to her husband.
    I want to be a good submissive wife for {YourNameHere}.

    I will do anything for {YourNameHere}.

    You need to be more obedient.
    I will obey my husband.
    Obedience to {YourNameHere} is obedience to God.

    You love being submissive.
    It feels good to obey {YourNameHere}.

    You need {YourNameHere} to be in charge.
    My husband is my master.
    {YourNameHere} owns me.

    You need rules.
    I want {YourNameHere} to make the rules.
    I need my husband to be in charge.

    You like being submissive to your husband.
    I get turned on by submitting to {YourNameHere}.

    My husband is head of the household.
    My husband is in charge of me.

    I enjoy being obedient, to my husband.
    You want to be what {YourNameHere} desires.
    I am anything {YourNameHere} wants me to be.

    You will love honor and obey my husband.
    I love honor and obey {YourNameHere}.

    You need to be a good submissive housewife.
    I want to be a better wife for {YourNameHere}.
    You want to be a good girl.
    My first duty is to my husband.

    Good girls have long red hair.
    You should let your hair grow.
    I want to have long red hair.

    A good wife takes care of the house.
    You need to be a better housewife.
    I was born to be a housewife.

    I enjoy housework and gardening.
    Dusting and sweeping are relaxing.
    I take pride in my clean home.

    Good girls are clean down below.
    I always shave my legs and pussy together.
    I love the clean feeling of a shaved pussy.

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    04/29/2016 at 12:18 pm

    P.S. There are some personal appearance elements that you may or may not agree with. Just skip them, or adjust to suit your preferences… πŸ™‚

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    04/30/2016 at 3:42 am

    Hi Fizbin

    Very grateful for your script too. There are definitely some nice sections in there. So much material and ideas here to really tailor the script. (Pfft if I only knew what I was doing!)

    I think I will try for now the script that Tap suggested. Making the smallest of changes around silent delays just to get slightly better sentence.

    I followed the ebook which worked step by step without error to create the mp3. The script runs for just under 10min.

    I also merged the source wav with some other mp3’s. Hopefully I did it right.
    (Just dropped extra music on to audacity, copy/paste the silent custom to expand to the same length, select all, export selection to mp3 and accept the merge warning message)

    I guess its observe time now.

    I’d love to report back with what I see and try and get more insights from you guys.


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    04/30/2016 at 8:59 am

    @Tichi said:

    Thanks. I am looking at the process of creating the file now.

    From other posts I think you found that phones and tablets worked better with higher amp value (-22 as opposed to -44) cause they’re such small devices. Anyhow I’ll look more into that too.

    I make all my files with a -30 amp. I feel like it’s the right balance of not being too low but not being too squeaky.

    It sounds like you are doing a rain file? I only do silents so not sure how that works. Also, the script alone should be about 3 minutes or so. When you copy and paste it, it could get to 10min. Hopefully you did it right. It’s very important you have a working file, otherwise your wife may be listening to nothing.

    One way you can kind of tell. With a silent at -30 amps, on full volume, you can almost make out the exact words the voice is saying. In that way you can check if it was made right.

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    04/30/2016 at 10:58 am

    @Tap said:

    One way you can kind of tell. With a silent at -30 amps, on full volume, you can almost make out the exact words the voice is saying. In that way you can check if it was made right.

    That will vary a bit based on playback device. Some will practically decode the file at much lower volumes, while others all you can get is the “mosquito” buzz – if that. I think it depends on what internal signal processing they use, and how close together the speakers are (e.g. a portable stereo micro-MP3 player).

    I do agree, though, that Trainer’s attenuation is a bit too aggressive.

    As for more technical options for quality control, you can re-open the file in Audacity. For a silent file, you will still see some “wave”, and for any file if you do a spectrum analysis you should see a small peak in the 14k range, though this is more obvious if your overlay track rolls off at 12k.

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    04/30/2016 at 1:39 pm

    OK will need to look into it again. Pretty sure I cut and past it a few times to get a 10min file.

    No rain file. It is actually a meditation mp3 she listens to. The ebook suggests you simply add your music (in this case meditation) and just make sure the custom length is right and I guess export the whole lot. It’s not the primary listening method tho.

    It’s playing everywhere now. Meanwhile I’ll do the checks again, maybe create a new one with -30 amplification and perform the volume checks with a test file as you describe in one of the other posts.

    Fizbin do you use audacity to perform the spectrum analysis?

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    04/30/2016 at 9:48 pm

    Yes. In Audacity, under analyze, select “Plot Spectrum”. It will warn if you have more than about 3.5 minutes selected for analysis, but it will analyze what it can.

    If you are looking at a silent file, I also have a block of Nyquist you can use to decode it back into normal sound.

    (setq carrier 14500)
    (lowpass8 (mult 2 s (hzosc carrier)) 8000)

    You can change the carrier value to whatever you used for the original conversion. The other common value is 17500.

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    05/01/2016 at 2:15 am

    OK interesting.

    So I created two silent mp3s. I did each separately from the start.

    One with amp -44.1 another with -23.

    I plotted both files (audacity warning as you say), the first shows no graph at all, while the second (-23) definitely shows a peak around 15k mark of -70db.

    The graph had all default settings.

    I can also try reversing the Nyquist filter for kicks to see what happens.

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    05/01/2016 at 2:20 am

    In another thread someone had asked about another subliminal company product. I have often wondered why they don’t offer a silent version of their product. I’ve wondered since I came here if their products could be reverse engineered to eliminate everything but the script, then converted using Trainer’s methods to a silent subliminal. What do you think Fiz?

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    05/01/2016 at 2:53 am

    @tonguester4_69 said:

    In another thread someone had asked about another subliminal company product. I have often wondered why they don’t offer a silent version of their product. I’ve wondered since I came here if their products could be reverse engineered to eliminate everything but the script, then converted using Trainer’s methods to a silent subliminal. What do you think Fiz?

    I’m not that strong in Audacity to know how (if possible at all) you can separate out the subliminal portion from the cover material if it is just levels-based. Frequency-shift/sideband subliminals are relatively easy to at least get a decodable signal from, but levels is the same band, co-mingled.

    If it (the sub content) is on its own track in the file, that is another story, but this is highly unlikely.

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    05/01/2016 at 2:57 am

    @Tichi said:

    OK interesting.

    So I created two silent mp3s. I did each separately from the start.

    One with amp -44.1 another with -23.

    I plotted both files (audacity warning as you say), the first shows no graph at all, while the second (-23) definitely shows a peak around 15k mark of -70db.

    The graph had all default settings.

    I can also try reversing the Nyquist filter for kicks to see what happens.

    Yeah, I’m not surprised.

    I’m a bit concerned about the stronger negative amps. Silence by frequency response is one thing; but I’m not sure homeopathy applied to audio is quite the right approach πŸ™‚

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    05/01/2016 at 6:45 am

    OK so I tried reversing the Nyquist filter.

    Applying the block of Nyquist on the -23 gives me audio I can hear and understand (if I ramp up the volume)

    Applying it to the -44.1 is still silent at my max volume. Though it doesn’t mean it’s not there I guess it’s still to low to hear.

    I feel that the -23 file is good at least thenngiven I could reverse the Nyquist and still hear the message.

    Out of interest what is the carrier as instructed by the ebook? As I see no 14500 nor 17500? And how did you get to that figure?

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    05/01/2016 at 7:22 pm

    As we age, the frequency response of our hearing typically drops. Thus you will likely need to shift the subliminal downward in frequency as your subject becomes more mature. A girl in her early 20’s will likely be able to hear (if not consciously understand) a subliminal recorded with a 14.5k carrier, while the 17.5 (or even higher) might put it out of her awareness zone. On the other hand, if your subject is in her 40’s, she may have lost even the ability to have a 17.5 centered file have any effect.


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    @Tichi said:

    OK so I tried reversing the Nyquist filter.

    Applying the block of Nyquist on the -23 gives me audio I can hear and understand (if I ramp up the volume)

    Applying it to the -44.1 is still silent at my max volume. Though it doesn’t mean it’s not there I guess it’s still to low to hear.

    I feel that the -23 file is good at least thenngiven I could reverse the Nyquist and still hear the message.

    Out of interest what is the carrier as instructed by the ebook? As I see no 14500 nor 17500? And how did you get to that figure?

    You should probably make a subliminal test file. I use it all the time when figuring out how high a volume to put the real subliminal. All you do is make the file with the -23 as your real subliminal without using the nyquist code. Then when you play this test file at different volumes, you can see the level of volume it is actually playing if you set your real subliminal at the same level.

    This is important because if you play it too high, especially if she listens to it with headphones, it can cause hearing loss. -23 at high volume on a playing device may be almost the same as someone talking at normal volume.

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    05/02/2016 at 1:36 am

    @Fizbin said:

    As we age, the frequency response of our hearing typically drops. Thus you will likely need to shift the subliminal downward in frequency as your subject becomes more mature. A girl in her early 20’s will likely be able to hear (if not consciously understand) a subliminal recorded with a 14.5k carrier, while the 17.5 (or even higher) might put it out of her awareness zone. On the other hand, if your subject is in her 40’s, she may have lost even the ability to have a 17.5 centered file have any effect.

    So the default value as set in the eBook 14500 (if that is correct) should be OK for her in her 40s.

    Problem is I can’t actually see 14500 set in the Nyquist block. It does decode at 14500 though.

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    05/02/2016 at 3:05 am

    @Tap said:

    You should probably make a subliminal test file. I use it all the time when figuring out how high a volume to put the real subliminal. All you do is make the file with the -23 as your real subliminal without using the nyquist code. Then when you play this test file at different volumes, you can see the level of volume it is actually playing if you set your real subliminal at the same level.

    This is important because if you play it too high, especially if she listens to it with headphones, it can cause hearing loss. -23 at high volume on a playing device may be almost the same as someone talking at normal volume.

    OK performed tests with -30 and -23 with all devices and also incorporating it into the meditation files and it sounds like -23 is OK.

    Found that if I rearrange one device slightly it projects the sound better. Also the meditation files both spoken word and the relaxing music are louder then the -23 so it should be OK on headphones.

    At least I am feeling more confident of the quality assurance side of things now.

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    05/02/2016 at 11:52 am

    @Tichi said:

    @Fizbin said:

    As we age, the frequency response of our hearing typically drops. Thus you will likely need to shift the subliminal downward in frequency as your subject becomes more mature. A girl in her early 20’s will likely be able to hear (if not consciously understand) a subliminal recorded with a 14.5k carrier, while the 17.5 (or even higher) might put it out of her awareness zone. On the other hand, if your subject is in her 40’s, she may have lost even the ability to have a 17.5 centered file have any effect.

    So the default value as set in the eBook 14500 (if that is correct) should be OK for her in her 40s.

    Problem is I can’t actually see 14500 set in the Nyquist block. It does decode at 14500 though.

    The value isn’t directly in the Nyquist because the encoding technique produces the output as a “resultant” beat between your source material, a high frequency sine wave and a lower (but still high) frequency sine wave. The delta between the two fixed sines forms a third sine wave that is the ultimate “carrier” for the encoded transmission.

    The actual acoustics involved are based on analog recording techniques found in a couple of patents that expired about 10 years ago.

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    05/04/2016 at 12:03 am

    Ah OK.

    I can see the two HZOSC entries subtracted from each other would get you the 14500 so it may possibly be that.

    All silents are in place now for a couple of days. Let’s see how things unfold.

    I was looking at Tap’s self improvement one and I wanted to utilise that for myself. But I wanted to add weight loss and also being cool calm and collected when our special needs child becomes difficult to handle.

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    05/08/2016 at 3:41 pm

    I think I have been playing the main file now for about 1 week. I had a pretty full on weekend keeping the house running while the wife did some work for local community group.

    Today she comes home and I suggest going for a drive for fun and she says I want to do whatever you want to do. This is not a phrase she would normally use.

    Not saying anything around this, it is only an observation. Anyhow, will keep on observing.

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    05/09/2016 at 10:36 pm

    Of course, having pleasant things to observe always helps… πŸ™‚

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    05/11/2016 at 12:02 am

    So a day or so later she was elated about something and happened to call me ‘baby’ with a smile. It knew it kind of slipped out. None the less a nice observation.

    I am wondering if I should just in the slightest of ways start to assert my authority. Just in the smallest of ways.

    The files have not been playing two weeks yet. So I don’t want to rush anything either.

    I know in the past if I asked of things it would raise resentment. Statements like i don’t work for you, etc. Ît was after our original relationship breakdown to be fair and never recovered, which is why I am here. πŸ™‚

    I was thinking along the lines of, can you serve dinner in a plate for me, you’re much better at portion control. When she does it then a ‘that pleases me line’ or something like that.

    Thoughts? I certainly don’t want to raise any tensions though.

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    05/11/2016 at 3:55 am

    At this point, you haven’t said you have been playing anything with affirmations which would/could lead to her feeling submissive or seeing you as a master (even with the “whatever you want to do” event). Though it does sound like her basic sense of the relationship is strengthening.

    Have you started playing something beyond what you posted earlier in this thread?

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    05/11/2016 at 9:37 am

    Yes I see, good point.

    I guess I have two threads now and am wondering where is best placed to put updates and progress, etc.

    This one deals with the history and the ideas to get me started and how to check that the files are valid.

    A separate thread on my current scripts and settings documented.

    Anyhow to answer your question I have been playing the primary file pretty much taken from Taps script on changing the dominence around in the relationship. This is day (when shes home) and night (bedside). It is only early days tho (1 week and a bit of playtime)

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    05/11/2016 at 11:47 am

    @Tichi said:

    Yes I see, good point.

    I guess I have two threads now and am wondering where is best placed to put updates and progress, etc.

    This one deals with the history and the ideas to get me started and how to check that the files are valid.

    A separate thread on my current scripts and settings documented.

    Anyhow to answer your question I have been playing the primary file pretty much taken from Taps script on changing the dominence around in the relationship. This is day (when shes home) and night (bedside). It is only early days tho (1 week and a bit of playtime)

    OK. Got it. I didn’t have the two threads associated in my head, as this thread did contain a script which you had said was your base.

    So, yes, this is definitely good progress and you should actually start letting her know what you would like. I wouldn’t do it in a aggressive manner, but rather simply ask for something you would like her to do.

    Again, don’t make it an odd request, but rather start with something that a “normal” person would ask for. I’m not sure I have the context of why you would ask for “Dinner on a plate?” As opposed to what – making you slurp it from a trough?

    Maybe if you normally just sit around on the couch you could suggest a “family dinner at the table for a change”.

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    05/11/2016 at 3:09 pm

    Yes context is everything!

    Normally i would serve myself, however I would ask her server it out for me. Sitting at the table is a good one too.

    Being authoritive within the family structure feels like something i have to learn all over again.

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    @Tichi said:

    Yes context is everything!

    Normally i would serve myself, however I would ask her server it out for me. Sitting at the table is a good one too.

    Being authoritive within the family structure feels like something i have to learn all over again.

    True enough. πŸ™‚ In this case I would lean toward starting with something like a “50’s lifestyle”, and working up from there. In addition, I would start supplementing her bedroom file with a script pushing her back toward the more intimate side of marriage. I have tweaked a segment from the template I posted earlier. It might be a good starting point for that…

    I made a Vow to God.
    I love, honor, and obey, my husband.
    My Vows are for Better or for Worse.

    You need to be a good wife.
    {YourNameHere} is the best husband I could ever have.

    I want to be a better wife for {YourNameHere}.
    I love, honor, and obey, my husband.

    You love {YourNameHere} more than anything.
    I am in love with my husband {YourNameHere}.

    I love my husband.

    I love {YourNameHere}.

    Pleasing {YourNameHere} serves God.

    Serving {YourNameHere} pleases God.

    I am a sexual partner.
    You crave your husband.
    I am {YourNameHere}’s lover.
    My husband can have me any time.

    Your body belongs to {YourNameHere}.
    I enjoy showing off my body to {YourNameHere}.

    I need to sleep with {YourNameHere}.

    I come to bed naked when I sleep with {YourNameHere}.

    I love sex with {YourNameHere}.
    You are hungry for {YourNameHere}’s cock.
    I fantasize about {YourNameHere} when I play with myself.

    I want to have sex with {YourNameHere}.

    Sex with {YourNameHere} makes me happy.

    Your breasts ache for {YourNameHere}.
    I crave {YourNameHere}’s touch.
    I am aroused just thinking of {YourNameHere}.
    I need sex with {YourNameHere}.

    You want {YourNameHere} right now.
    Pleasing my husband feels so good.

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    05/12/2016 at 11:30 am

    Yes I hear what your saying. I guess there is definitely benefit to adding to the current script with elements of what you’ve just posted. I shall need to review again.

    I do think the relationship needs to change where she doesn’t call the shots and run things her way. Once she started to defer to me i could possibly try and start the relationship again was the thought anyhow.

    Can I ask how long you would run with a script before considering modding it or changing it entirely? Especially these early days. I am thinking in terms of weeks, or months?

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    05/12/2016 at 12:05 pm

    I guess that that would depend somewhat on what your actual goals are, but also where she actually is in her own mind. As I mentioned in another thread, you aren’t programming a robot, starting with a clean slate.

    You are building upon her life’s experiences. Even though you are in a “separation”, you are also still married – and that carries quite a bit of weight. It is that marriage that gives you the “right” to be her leader, so I would see firming up the “Love” (and possibly the “Honor”) portion of the vows as being critical to long-term support of the “Obey”. She may even be drawing upon this herself, and dusting off her original feelings in order to support these “new” ideas that are wafting through her head.

    A maid or au pair can “obey”, but doesn’t usually form a permanent emotional connection to her employer. You want your wife back, and so there should be much more to it at the foundation. My script suggestion is designed to shore up that foundation, with the goal of getting her out of a separate room and back into yours.

    As for how long to run the scripts, depending upon the woman – upon that foundation already within her – some elements might take within days, while there might be certain affirmations that you have to run indefinitely as a “maintenance”.

    Absent subliminals or chemically addictive factors, it usually takes 3 to 4 weeks to embed a habit. I wouldn’t drop or significantly alter the existing script for that long, but I can see starting to supplement it with another after one or two. Then, as you see the results you can take it from there.

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    05/12/2016 at 11:42 pm

    Thanks that is really insightful.

    OK so if I understand correctly. After a few weeks of the main subliminal, you are then probably ok to introduce a secondary one. Enter your script above.

    Since my understanding was that you use a single file. How would you introduce a second? Is it a case of playing them one after another alternatively? Or do you go week on week off. Sorry this is the technical person in me…(as usual I’m probably over thinking it!)

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    05/13/2016 at 4:00 am

    There isn’t really any magic about how many “files” you run, as much as the number and pace of the of concepts you are throwing at her.

    Some folks were taking Trainer’s stock files and either playing a bunch of them together as a playlist (not literally “at the same time”), or playing one file for a few days or a week, not seeing instant results, and switching out for a new file.

    After that proved to be largely ineffective, the consensus settled down to no more than two (or maybe three if all shared clearly related ideas), and letting them run for several weeks. Then, as people started making custom files in earnest, again there were schools of thought where some would throw everything but the kitchen sink into a single file, while others would stay with a more granular approach.

    Finally, custom files allowed for a level of “fine tuning” on a more frequent basis, keeping most affirmations, but maybe adding a few, removing others that caused an abreaction, or changing the order for better flow.

    Whether you create a second file and just let them play in sequence, or add the new info to your single file, as long as you keep going with the original concepts for at least a month before pruning back, you should be fine.

    The other thing I forgot to mention, is many have seen a “two steps forward, one step back” type pattern as her original ideas seem to reassert themselves temporarily. Or after the files have played for a time, she develops a headache for a short while but when the headache clears, suddenly a new behavior is manifest. These are usually interpreted as the subconscious rallying a “last stand” before finally giving in to the new ideas for good.

    Another factor, I believe at least, is the woman’s cycle. Just as she is more receptive sensually at certain times, her mind is probably also more or less receptive to the new ideas depending upon where she is hormonally.


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    05/13/2016 at 5:11 pm

    It looks like you are seeing some progress. A few tips:

    – One subliminal is always the best, especially if it is new to her. Also, it’s good to keep an eye on the number of affirmations because the more there are, the longer she will have to hear it to work. For me, I saw good results when I had 10 to 30. The lesser the better. When I started having 35 or more, I didn’t see that good of results.

    -Along those lines, if you play two subliminals, but each one only has about 20 to 25 affirmations, that is ok.

    -I would suggest at times requesting her to do things to see what she does. When she does what you want, it’s always important to compliment her or reward her in some way. That way it becomes habit forming, and the norm for your relationship.

    -There will be times when she may push back to argue with you. This could be her subconscious retaliating. Eventually, that should subside after she listens to the subliminal enough.

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    05/16/2016 at 12:01 am

    Thanks Fizbin and Tap for the feedback and tips.

    So Friday we were on the phone trying to work out what to do for dinner. We decided to meet up at the train station. While on the phone she became short with me because things at home were going all wrong. Organising going out, baby sitter, etc.
    Anyhow she phoned later to say she was sorry for being short with me and that she’s waiting having a wine while I get to the station and to let her know when I’m close by so she can pick me up. All in all it was a good experience really. I was quite pleased. She did complain about having a headache too.

    I think I will stick with tap’s file in full for the remainder of the month. It will probably remain the primary script.

    I want to take your script Fizbin and cut it down so that I have no more than say 40 or so lines in total with both scripts running. The concept of getting her back into the bedroom should be bubbling away slowly on the side.

    I’ll post up once I think I have something. I will then play them alternatively one after the other.

    There are at lease two weeks before the main file plays for a month so I’ld like to let that complete it’s course now I think.

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    05/17/2016 at 4:34 pm

    So today we had a little chat, interestingly she wanted to change her hair to another color, and I suggested it would look nice if she just lightened her natural hair color. So it turned out that is what she did. Looks stunning to me and I made sure she knew that was how I felt.

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    05/22/2016 at 10:31 pm

    Small update. Trying to shift the roles and asking her to do things like wash and hang my shirts which she has done.

    Also trying to be the decision maker, this is what we need to do, etc. Keeping it small steps.

    I made sure to let her know I’m happy with her work.

    So in about a week I’ll start a new rotation to include marriage vow affirmations. We have a councilling session about a week after that. It will be interesting to see how the discussion goes since the councillor doesn’t know yet of the separation status.

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    05/24/2016 at 4:49 am

    You might want to introduce the other file sooner rather than later, and maybe “resolve” the separation before you go to the counselor.

    While I’m quite interested in hearing what comes out of that session, as far as any changes to her feelings. I do have a concern that if the separation is still in place any positive results will be attributed to the separation itself, as that is the most obvious “real” external change. The counselor might then suggest continuing it indefinitely.

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    05/24/2016 at 7:38 am

    Well I should be able to postpone it as it already has been a number of times due to one reason or another (genuinely that is).

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    05/24/2016 at 8:04 am

    I’m not too worried about postponing it, though if the files continue to work as intended she might be amicable to just cancelling it.

    In any case, when you do decide it is time to bring the other file into play, perhaps if you start about a week after her monthly, and then about the time of her peak receptivity (2 weeks into playing) surprise her with some flowers and see if you can’t nudge her back into your room, for good.

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    05/25/2016 at 2:09 am

    Well I have postponed it for now.

    I’ll complete the week and intro the new file. I’ll reevaluate after a couple of weeks, but at this stage I can’t really see how having that discussion will lead to a good outcome.

    Crazy days…

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    05/26/2016 at 4:34 pm

    So this morning we had a few things on the go and I wanted to organise so we drop off the kid at school rather than a bus pick up.

    The wife was all flustered with the morning rush, anyhow she wanted me to call to arrange us to drop off the kid at school and I asked her to call (I was doing other things) and she cracked it saying she needed to get ready and threw the card down and left.

    I called and arranged the drop off and later I spoke to her about it she was all defensive and looked quite annoyed. Anyhow I tried to keep it all positive and explained that the point of rearranging the morning routine was so that we had more time and didn’t need to rush.

    I think there is still a way to go before the relationship turns with me being in charge.

    Not sure if I need to tweak the obey script or if I should introduce the love/honor script this weekend as I planned.

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    05/26/2016 at 5:26 pm

    I’ve said it before, I feel there is too much emphasis on obedience (in general, but especially in your case). Your relationship is more broken than some of the others here have been (most had not proceeded to any true separation). I would really put more emphasis on the why she wants to be with you, and less on turning her into a maid.

    There’s a reason the classic vows put love first and obedience last. Once she feels the love for you, and honors/respects you, she will be willing to obey or (do just about anything) to defer to your wishes in service of those feelings.

    Some of Trainer’s original “Female Ownership” scripts are sequential multi-part efforts, which spend a long time building feelings of love in multiple phases before finally encouraging obedience/submissive activity. Even divided into three phases, each of them are far longer than any script currently in use. I can’t find them on the site any more, but I have both the originals as well as a monster combined file that has most of the elements from the originals. I’ll post the combined file in your scripts thread.

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    05/27/2016 at 5:09 pm

    OK fair enough.

    From my point of view I have to try a direction and see what comes of it and refocus. I am always grateful for your thoughts.

    So…

    Given I have played obedience of over a month as primary and now I want to intro love/honor as secondary should still go ahead, OR, do I just make love/honor primary focus with some elements of obey do you think?

    I guess I’m asking for advice on the best way forward – scrap and start again or slowly intro love/honor?

    Thanks again Fizbin.

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    05/28/2016 at 5:04 am

    I think you can shift toward love/honor. I would make it a clean break. The obedience stuff will still be rattling around in her brain. It doesn’t get “deleted” just because the file goes away.

    Although “two steps forward, one step back” is a common pattern, and usually just calls for continued patience, this sounded more like an abreaction. I really do think you need to build up her emotional base before the compliance will really stick.

    As for the nature of the new affirmations, take a look at the script I posted, as well as the source material scripts I’m going to post today under a separate thread. I’m not saying you need to use them in their entirety right away, but consider the progression being shown as a way to rebuild her feelings to form a closer relationship.


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    05/28/2016 at 4:40 pm

    I doubt the love/honor would do anything. Her idea of love and honor is her running the relationship and doing what she wants.

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    05/29/2016 at 12:08 am

    I appreciate both views. For example she still calls me by my pet name and I her. She is delicate in many ways and I know she had the love/honour Christian qualities once apon a time. Today she is definitely running the show in her mind. It snapped in place that way some 2-3 years ago. Only the other day she made a comment to someone about how if I try and keep her accountable with something she yells at me. Which I think show exactly the problem. But one of many. She never used to be that way, but is today.

    That is why I leaned towards Taps thoughts. Fizbin I get what you are saying too and I’m not discounting it at all. Marriage is a deep commitment and it’s there in some dark corner. She isn’t a robot and has loving sides to her, but it’s at a friendship level today.

    So I am kind of playing a game between two paths and being new at this, what do I know. There is no ebook. All I can do is try one and adjust. I think jumping between this and that is probably not wise.

    The trick is how far do you try one and adjust? Is one week enough, a month, a year? When do I give up on obedience and try love/honour?

    So my next move, stick to the plan…

    I now have Taps original obedience still running (unmodified), but now have a cut down version of love/honour (from Fizbin’s script). I think it

    I really don’t expect this to be anything quick at all and am fully committed to the long haul.

    I will continue to ask her to do things for me, just simple stuff to try and reinforce obedience.

    I wonder if there are thoughts along similar lines with love/honour? Fizbin how would you gauge the effectiveness of love/honour as it’s playing?

    As always thank you both for your thoughts.

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    05/29/2016 at 4:49 am

    I just have this vision of her having Natalie Cole’s rendition of “Someone that I used to love” constantly playing in her head, and that THIS is the feeling you need to past:

    Yet it wasn’t enough for you
    All the love I had to give
    I did my best to keep you satisfied
    I guess you’ll never know how much I tried
    I really tried

    And if ever our paths should cross again
    Well, You won’t find me being the one
    Who gets lost
    Once I had so much to give
    But You just refused my love
    From now on
    You’re only someone that I used to love

    I did my best to keep you satisfied
    I guess you’ll never know how much I tried
    I really tried

    When I wake up each morning
    Trying to find myself
    And if I’m ever the least unsure
    I always remind myself
    Though you’re someone in this world
    I’ll always choose to love
    From now on
    You’re only someone that I used to love

    A few years ago (pretty sure it was on the old forums), there was a poster who was renting a room to an exotic dancer (later two). He started using the first of Trainer’s files I posted yesterday, and aside from some technical issues (one of the girls was able to hear “buzzing” from the stereo when he played them), within a few weeks they were practically eating out of his hand – but he never followed through. They both eventually moved on to where they could get those desires – which he had built up so strongly in them – fulfilled.

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    05/30/2016 at 4:42 pm

    OK so I have now been playing the Obey for about a month.

    I have added as per the plan a section of Love/Honour.

    These play one after the other continually.

    My husband {MrNameHere}, is my master.

    My husband {MrNameHere}, is my king.

    My husband {MrNameHere}, is my boss.

    My husband {MrNameHere}, has complete control over me.

    My husband {MrNameHere}, is superior over me.

    My husband {MrNameHere}, is dominant over me.

    My husband {MrNameHere}, has authority over me.

    My husband {MrNameHere}, is in charge of me.

    My husband {MrNameHere}, makes decisions for me.

    I always show respect, to my husband {MrNameHere}.

    I am submissive, to my husband {MrNameHere}.

    I like being submissive, to my husband {MrNameHere}.

    I am happy being submissive, to my husband {MrNameHere}.

    I love being, my husband {MrNameHere}’s submissive wife.

    My fantasy, is being my husband {MrNameHere}’s, submissive wife.

    I do everything, my husband {MrNameHere} says.

    I follow my husband {MrNameHere}’s orders.

    I love to obey, my husband {MrNameHere}.

    I am happy to obey, my husband {MrNameHere}.

    God commands me, to obey my husband {MrNameHere}.

    My purpose in life, is to obey my husband {MrNameHere}.

    I always obey, my husband {MrNameHere}.

    I enjoy pleasing, my husband {MrNameHere}.

    I like to satisfy, my husband {MrNameHere}’s desires.

    I love making, my husband {MrNameHere} happy.

    I need to do everything, to keep my husband {MrNameHere} happy.

    My greatest desire, is to make my husband {MrNameHere} happy.

    My priority in life, is to make my husband {MrNameHere} happy.

    and

    I made, a vow to God.

    I love, honor, and obey my husband {MrNameHere}.

    My vows, are for better, or for worse.

    You need to be, a good wife, for your husband {MrNameHere}.

    {MrNameHere} is the best husband, I could ever have.

    I want to be a better wife, for my husband {MrNameHere}.

    You love {MrNameHere}, more than anything.

    I am in love, with my husband {MrNameHere}.

    Pleasing {MrNameHere}, serves God.

    Serving {MrNameHere}, pleases God.

    I am a sexual partner, to my husband {MrNameHere}.

    You crave, your husband {MrNameHere}.

    I crave, my husband {MrNameHere}’s touch.

    I am, my husband {MrNameHere}’s lover.

    Your body belongs, to your husband {MrNameHere}.

    I enjoy, showing off my body, to my husband {MrNameHere}.

    I need to sleep, with my husband {MrNameHere}.

    I come to bed naked, when I sleep, with my husband {MrNameHere}.

    I love sex, with my husband {MrNameHere}.

    Sex, with my husband {MrNameHere}, makes me happy.

    I am aroused, just thinking of my husband {MrNameHere}.

    So the plan is to just keep this going for a month again and see what results I get.

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    05/30/2016 at 4:51 pm

    Although I am not sure I really have the best parts of Love/Honour just reading it through now…

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    05/30/2016 at 5:38 pm

    I have found that in TextAloud you can tell it to pause after every line – makes editing the scripts easier and makes them more readable not to have all those in there

    Tools>Text Processing>Pauses and Text Insertions
    Add a new rule that pauses between paragraphs (on a new line character)

    I pause for a second between lines
    at the end of a block of lines, I then add a to get the pause up to 3 seconds between blocks

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    05/30/2016 at 5:41 pm

    it stripped out my commands – strange – Wonder if it will strip out {Pause} commands since those are the alternative commands

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    05/30/2016 at 5:47 pm

    Editor here uses less than and greater than as text markups – will not display stuff inside those characters – since the Pause command uses braces instead it seems to show those

    I have found that in TextAloud you can tell it to pause after every line – makes editing the scripts easier and makes them more readable not to have all those {{Pause=0.5}} in there (Pauses are in seconds and silences are in milliseconds)

    Tools>Text Processing>Pauses and Text Insertions
    Add a new rule that pauses between paragraphs (on a new line character)

    I pause for a second between lines
    at the end of a block of lines, I then add a {{Pause=2}} to get the pause up to 3 seconds between blocks

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    05/30/2016 at 5:50 pm
    My husband is my master
    I belong to Jeff
    I will please Jeff
    Jeff is my master
    I will please Jeff
    Master Jeff cherishes his property
    Jeff Loves and cherishes me
    Jeff loves me just as I am
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    05/30/2016 at 6:13 pm

    Thanks Jeff.

    I don’t actually mind the inline commands. But the textaloud settings are good to know.

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    05/31/2016 at 6:30 am

    @Tichi said:

    Although I am not sure I really have the best parts of Love/Honour just reading it through now…

    Not if you’re going for love and honor. More like Love and sex. One of the scripts I posted has a very long honor block, plus Trainer’s script one from what I posted this weekend has some good love/honor stuff.

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    06/03/2016 at 2:30 am

    Yes i shall review and post back.

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    06/06/2016 at 1:28 am

    Simple update

    Had a great Friday dinner. She prepared and packed food and we went to a wine bar. I bought wine she served out the dinner. It was a great night, weekend even.

    I’ve been asking for small things like tea and coffee. Sat she asked for my opinion on a form she had to fill out. And Sunday I asked her to help me with washing my shirts again. I did the slow roast BBQ.

    It’s like I have to relearn to ask for things and trying to be assertive. If she does come up with a suggestion I try to turn it into something I approve of (rather than just go along with it), or else state an alternate we should do.

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    06/06/2016 at 8:29 pm

    I wanted to add that I do a budget every week which requires receipts and it’s often an issue of contention when I want receipts from her.
    However I have noticed they have just appeared quiet pleasantly for me to do my thing this week. Of course it could be a one off as in the past however let’s see how this plays out over time.

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    06/09/2016 at 3:09 am

    Progress is progressing. πŸ™‚

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    06/15/2016 at 8:27 am

    Yes I hope so. It seems positive. She always seems glad to see me when I get home. Small steps and let’s things unfold naturally.

    Now and then with a statement your better at solving problems than I. Or can I cook you something. Always heaps of praise and how pleased I am when she does something.

    Still locks the door to the shower and when changing, etc. Definitely more pliable to obedience though.

    I do note the suggestion in the other thread about locking the door. I’ll allow my latest to play for a bit before trying that.

    I have changed the second script now and will post up shortly what is playing on the love/honour in addition to the obey.

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    06/21/2016 at 10:00 pm

    Hard week with lots happening in the external family. I don’t particularly recall anything of stand out, but things will hopefully start to settle a bit now.

    I have the new single script running now not quite a week.

    Overall no real change things are about the same.

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    06/27/2016 at 4:40 am

    Interestingly she was complaining about things and I told her to stop, she gave me a bit of a stare down.

    Anyhow, that was that, the next day she confessed to not wanting to complain and proceeded to analyze where it comes from and growing up, etc. and wanting to work on it.

    Very nice indeed.

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    06/28/2016 at 3:29 am

    Interesting. In this, did she talk at all about her thought processes when you told her to stop complaining, and what led her to come to you afterward? It might be enlightening to see if anything from the files came up in her explanation.

    Note: I wouldn’t quiz her on it at this point. If something similar happens again, after praising her for opening up, and wanting to improve herself “as do we all”, maybe a mild probing question of how she came to these conclusions.

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    06/30/2016 at 2:10 am

    No thought processes, other than the next day she kind of tried to explain herself, and I was completely good about it and tried to support her, be understanding with her and have that common comradery in trying to improve ourselves.

    Good point to try and dig a little. I’ll try next time.

    To be honest I was kind of taken aback and didn’t expect her to respond the way she did at all.

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    06/30/2016 at 5:16 am

    @Tichi said:

    To be honest I was kind of taken aback and didn’t expect her to respond the way she did at all.

    Which part was unexpected? The death glare? The compliance? Or the coming back to explain herself? All of the above? What would have been her expected behavior (before and after the application of the subliminal therapy)?

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    07/01/2016 at 12:23 pm

    I did a quick test post here last night after I brought it online and then I deleted it.

    Everything is fine I’m sure πŸ™‚

    I’ve done a lot of converting tests for topics and posts before performing the final move.

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    07/02/2016 at 6:48 am

    The come back to explain herself. That was unexpected. Previously I would have not expected a come back at all. Or the come back would have been immediately to put me back in my place.

    The scripts were not intended to address this, they are in the love, honour and obey track to try and pull the marital relationship back together.

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    07/03/2016 at 4:50 am

    This gets a bit into what I’ve mentioned in other posts. This isn’t simply “programming” a blank slate. The new thoughts have to fit into her overall system. There will be secondary and tertiary effects, some of which might not be intuitive until you look at the whole picture.

    In this case, you have affirmations about pleasing you, obedience, and you being her leader and source of advice and guidance. In this case, she was clearly displeasing you. You gave her instruction, which she obeyed, but was not showing “honor” of your in the process. This probably ended up as her feeling guilty, and coming to you to explain herself and (probably) look for your help in trying to overcome that history.

    This is all consistent with the therapy, even though the end action was not explicitly stated as part of it.

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    07/04/2016 at 2:58 am

    Thanks for that explanation. I didn’t quite connect the dots, but your explanation really clarified it for me.

    I am glad we have a very positive discussion after her outpouring (mindful in trying to be the leader) and it shows the script is having an effect.

    I still wonder though what I should be doing next to test the boundaries. Asside from asking her to do things. I thought about calling her “babe” or “hon” innocently here or there to see what reaction I’d get.

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    07/04/2016 at 7:54 am

    That might be a start, but I would also try getting a bit more kinesthetic as well. Act like a “couple” instead of like a “couple of friends – who just happen to share the same house”. Don’t just tell her to do things for you, ask her to do some things with you.

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    07/04/2016 at 8:06 am

    Agreed, how about watching a movie or doing something together.

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    07/07/2016 at 4:03 pm

    So calling her babe or hon doesn’t return any negative reaction. So I’ll just go slow there.

    We continue to do things together, but I will be more mindful of specifically asking her. We plan on doing some light exercise given the health kick we are on at the moment so that should be interesting.

    I actually haven’t asked her to do things for me of late, she seems to have just done everything. I should try to add things here.

    But I am thinking of that relationship councilling session coming up in a few weeks (I delayed it last time) maybe I should just say I’d like to cancel it and see what she says.

    Nice, slow and naturally does it and thanks for letting me bounce thoughts here and for your support.

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    07/14/2016 at 3:51 pm

    I would suggest that you get her back into your room before cancelling the counseling. And preferably before the next session actually takes place. I still have a concern that any improvement in the relationship seen to date will be attributed to the separation, since there is no other “obvious” reason for it.

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    07/15/2016 at 8:57 am

    Interesting she was quite busy and frustrated other night and I asked if I could help, she fobbed me off with a well can you? don’t know what you can do?! So I replied with an unimpressed that’s not helpful response. (Especially since we both have been working on this project together) she then calmed down quite quickly explained she was frustrated and I agreed it was tough and understood. We bounced some ideas around and it ended up a well respected mutual discussion.

    The next morning she walk into the robe where I was dressing (she hasn’t done this since separation) asked if I was OK. We had a lovely chat and went on our way. I asked her to wear the high heels she bought for our night out. She agreed.

    That night we went with out (high heels and all), I told her she looked smoking hot and she took my hand arm in arm we went out on our outing.

    She brought up that we must have missed councilling and I suggested we cancel it, she didn’t object so I cancelled it.

    What a pleasant day.

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    07/15/2016 at 1:59 pm

    Excellent!

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    07/19/2016 at 2:27 am

    Things are steadily moving forward. I gave her a massage and we are cuddling, the kiss goodbye is also on the menu.

    She keeps deferring to me on things which is great.

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    08/03/2016 at 6:30 am

    So it has been some weeks since the last update.

    I’d say things are status quo at the moment. Not worse and not better.

    While she originally reached out to hold hands and kiss, she doesn’t so much now but doesn’t object if I do. It kinda of feels one way though.

    We went away on a trip and both enjoyed it, there are moments when she would engage in being close.

    She still closes the door when dressing, etc. So not so much progress there. We go out however and do hold hands so it’s a.bit of a mixed bag.

    Even so, looking back the relationship is in a much better place than the start of this journey.

    She is very mindful of doing household duties for me and continues to defer to me on decisions to be made or at the very least give me her thoughts and ask my opinion.

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    08/08/2016 at 1:59 am

    While the scripts are playing. I am mindful of self improvement too. I have been looking at the following web sites which have been reminding me on my role and behaviour too;

    The Red Pill Room: Male Dominance: A Beginner’s Guide

    How to be dominant with women, Part 1 – The Alpha Next Door

    How to be dominant with women, Part 2 – The Alpha Next Door

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    08/11/2016 at 4:08 am

    Maybe it is time to switch things up on the script and shift a bit toward the more sexual thoughts and getting her back in the bedroom.

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    08/15/2016 at 12:37 am

    Yes agreed.

    Cute cuddles and the like, certainly going in a good direction, but needs to be stepped up.

    I’ll have a look at the scripts available and post something up.

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    08/17/2016 at 1:05 am

    OK so I have had a go at modifying the script. The first part is really the same, the second half is taken from the ‘I Love Sex’ and has been adapted a bit.

    I have not recorded this as yet. As always thoughts appreciated.

    
    <SILENCE MSEC="1500" />
    My Husband {HisName}, is my Master.
    My Husband {HisName}, is my King.
    My Husband {HisName}, is my Boss.
    My Husband {HisName}, has complete control over me.
    My Husband {HisName}, is superior over me.
    My Husband {HisName}, is dominant over me.
    My Husband {HisName}, has authority over me.
    My Husband {HisName}, is in charge of me.
    My Husband {HisName}, makes decisions for me.
    My Husband {HisName}, is head of the family.
    I always show respect, to {HisName}.
    God commands me, to respect {HisName}.
    I am submissive, to my Husband.
    I like being submissive, to my Husband.
    I am happy being submissive, to my Husband.
    I love being, {HisName}’s submissive wife.
    My fantasy, is being {HisName}’s, submissive wife.
    I do everything, {HisName} says.
    I follow, {HisName}’s orders.
    I love to obey, my Husband.
    I am happy to obey, my Husband.
    God commands me, to obey {HisName}.
    My purpose in life, is to obey {HisName}.
    I always obey, {HisName}.
    I enjoy pleasing, {HisName}.
    I like to satisfy, {HisName}’s desires.
    I love making, {HisName} happy.
    I need to do everything, to keep {HisName} happy.
    My greatest desire, is to make {HisName} happy.
    My priority in life, is to make {HisName} happy.
    <SILENCE MSEC="3000" />
    
    <SILENCE MSEC="3000" />
    I made, a vow to God.
    I love, honor, and obey {HisName}.
    My vows, are for better, or for worse.
    Having sex with my Husband {HisName}, pleases God.
    I love to have sex with my Husband.
    I need to have sex with my Husband {HisName}.
    You love sex with your Husband.
    {HisName} is an attractive man.
    I want to have sex with my Husband {HisName}.
    I enjoy having sex with my Husband.
    My Husband, is an attractive man.
    I feel attracted to {HisName}.
    You feel attracted to {HisName}.
    I love having sex with my Husband {HisName}.
    I need to have sex with my Husband.
    I want to have sex with my Husband.
    You need to have sex with your Husband {HisName}.
    Sex is good with my Husband.
    I love having sex with my Husband {HisName}.
    You enjoy sex with {HisName} your Husband so much.
    I feel attracted to {HisName}.
    I love having sex with my Husband.
    Sex is great with {HisName} my Husband.
    <SILENCE MSEC="1500" />
    
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    08/17/2016 at 11:47 am

    The only thing I would suggest would be, again, to get her back into your room. So, maybe you could change a few of the “have sex with” references to “sleep with” and/or “share a bed with”, and maybe a few “separation is a silly idea” lines.

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    08/17/2016 at 4:19 pm

    Yes, I may also add wearing the wedding ring. I’ll repost the modified script.

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    08/19/2016 at 2:24 am

    I thought to provide a bit of an update as to how things are. We currently still go out every Friday night, hold hands while walking. Will sit and cuddle while watching a movie and usually a kiss on leaving and arriving home.

    Though most of this is initiated by me. Not sure if it’s just her not into it or the obedience.

    This morning I thought I walk in the robe while she was getting ready for the shower – to see how she would react. She walked off first, then came back and part closed the door. Before doing so she asked of I needed anything from the bathroom, then offered that it’s only to keep the heat in. I didn’t particularly challenge it.

    A lot also depends on her mood, if she is happy and things are working out for her she is much more engaged in the relationship, conversely when things are down she is more withdrawn from the relationship.

    Let’s see how things play out with the new script.

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    08/20/2016 at 12:41 pm

    This is something I’ve pointed out before, but your correlation with her “mood” makes it appropriate for restatement. Try to be aware of her cycle, as she will tend to be more receptive to many changes (not just intimate overtures) at the right time of the month.

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    08/24/2016 at 2:21 am

    Yes, I do recall. Though this appears to be more day to day rather than monthly.

    She sent an email over some things that were going her way, and being super excited ended the email with I Love You. Then that night tongue-in-cheek completed my sentence “how can…” you be a good husband? Hoping for some tea. It was a bit of friendly banter.

    Some days the relationship seems cooler, but overall, it does seem to be improving.

    I also feel it’s time to review my own script.

    At some point I do want to have a talk to her about our relationship, but not as yet.

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    08/24/2016 at 2:32 am

    Some days the relationship seems cooler, but overall, it does seem to be improving.

    This is especially so when I think back where the relationship started!

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    09/15/2016 at 2:42 am

    So a bit of an update.

    She initiates hand holding now.
    I can walk up to her from behind in the kitchen and give her a close cuddle, leaning into her.
    She often will state I’m better at doing things, or its my decision. Which I always acknowledged and action. She seems to come around even if she doesn’t quite like the decision at first.
    I will slap her ass for the fun of it, without any objection.

    But the biggest tell – I have slipped into bed with her in the morning, and cuddled up which she was fine with.

    Excellent I say!

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    09/16/2016 at 3:41 am

    Definitely solid progress! Keep it up!

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    10/10/2016 at 4:34 pm

    It’s been some weeks now and I thought an update would be good.

    It’s been a really tough few weeks, we’re both tired from work and other commitments. Mrs has especially been feeling down feeling pressure from work. We’re both are crazy busy at the moment.

    Our Friday nights are fantastic, we really enjoy a great night out together.

    She seems to appreciate things I do more and more. For example I bought her flowers the other day out of the blue. Granted I haven’t bought her flowers for ages. Normally it would be the case of somewhat of a thanks. This time she was genuinely delighted, with a huge smile. I remember once ages ago she left the flowers in the laundry sink and that’s where they dried out too, until I threw them out…

    She made an interesting gesture too. Asked me to read a passage of a book she is reading and said it reminded her of me. Basically it was about a relationship that had turned around by a husband that started to appreciate his wife. Her comment was that I worked hard to turn the relationship around. The funniest thing is that I know how hard I have worked in the past, this time around instead of working literally tirelessly to please her, the work has been on myself.

    She refers to our bed as her bed when speaking to our son, in the past it would have been daddy’s bed.

    She often asks my option and if we have a disagreement (which is not often) she ask what I want to do.

    I still feel we have a ways to go yet, but I also can’t help thinking about steps to now ‘officially’ start again. Wedding rings on, bedroom and close out with sex. Still not sure how to make that jump.

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    10/11/2016 at 6:35 am

    Not sure why, but what is ringing through my head is “Find a good time and ask her to renew your vows!” This can mark a formal transition back to the “fully married” state.

    P.S. This doesn’t need to be a big public event, but could be a private little exchange someplace just before God alone.

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    10/11/2016 at 4:24 pm

    Yes I was thinking something like that.

    BTW can this whole thread be moved to the journal section? It’s kinda turned into one – not that it matters if it can’t.

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    11/04/2016 at 8:25 am

    So a bit of an update. We have been going along quite well as a couple. In fact I decided to tell her that I wanted to restart our relationship. She agreed and thought it was a good idea.

    A nice turnaround from the near past.

    Thank you to the community for helping me to turn things around.

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    11/04/2016 at 11:12 am

    You’re very welcome! I’m glad we were able to help. Please do keep coming back to fill us in on how things progress in your “new” relationship!

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    11/08/2016 at 12:29 am

    This is a long and patient journey. I am yet to close out the relationship, though she understands sex is on the menu. I will continue progressing the relationship at a slow and steady pace.

    It is amazing how the change in attitude towards me and what I do for her and the family. I will continue to shift my role as the dominant and head of the family. Not actually the easiest of jobs, but it’s all (re)learning for me and the way it should be I believe.

    New things are coming out like for example the pet dog used to have run of the house which completely annoyed me, but she would have absolutely no part in changing the dynamic with our pet. Now when I explain I would prefer we change some of the bad behaviours she just naturally goes along with it. So much better than arguing over things like that.

    Being dominant of course I don’t mean abuse, but leading, firm and fair. Explaining how I want things to be and making decisions for the most part. And being clear when I’m not happy about something, though it’s not a card to pull out lightly. There is no need to lose it or get angry. You want to be inline and reaffirm the message being administered. So being a gentleman is part of the deal and it’s the way I would want it anyhow.

    My own issues and complete disregard and indifference toward her in the early days lead to the family breakdown, then in an attempt to recover our relationship I became the beta to overcompensate to get her back, and it just lead to her doing the same to me. Running the relationship as she saw fit, with little respect for me. So it was never going to work in the long run.

    I fully intend to keep posting the journey. I only hope this story can help others that may face a similar situation.

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    01/19/2017 at 2:19 pm

    It has been awhile since the last post. Things are still progressing nicely albeit slowly. She has started to sleep in the main bedroom.

    This still poses a challenge since our son insists on waking up in the night and wanting to cuddle up. We are working on this but the idea is accepted and this is a great step forward.

    This will also allow me to revisit the script to focus more on the bed room.

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    01/19/2017 at 2:23 pm

    On a side note, I noticed the web page is all black (with black text) on some screens making it difficult to post.

    Does anyone else get this? I’m using chrome on a smartphone.

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    01/21/2017 at 5:03 am

    Congratulations on the ongoing success! Yes, things do need to change over time, and in response to new situations. Please do be sure to update us on your new scripts as well.

    As to the rendering, I can’t help you there – I use Windows, and don’t access the site on my phone at all. But make sure you test and give Trainer feedback when he releases the beta of the next of his infamous total rewrite of the site and forum software that should be available “soon”.

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    03/02/2017 at 2:18 am

    So I think I have a bit of a set back…

    She had a cold and her period and to that we are all generally tired.

    For a night out and a break she wanted to go to a outdoors screening of a film. On the night however it didn’t quite work out, I was tired and didn’t feel up to it, non the less we all went. Our son played up, the sound was too loud so we ended up going home.

    She was extremely upset (that’s the half of it!). It felt just like the bad old days for that night.

    Blamed me for not being supportive and not wanting to go, it was truly awful for everyone. Anyhow it did blow over – seemingly – over the next couple of days.

    But then a week later, I found a message on her phone that stated that she definitely needed more time to understand how she felt about me. This was to a friend. Now it may not sound as it does, but I guess I am trying to piece the puzzle together.

    Weird thing is that we still have a good time, and co-operate and do stuff together and laugh – she may even call me hun (though not over the last week). But she does feel more distant.

    Anyhow, I feel like I need to drop the current file and go back to my previous which had more relationship based messages over the sex based messages. So it is back to v5 which is this one:

    My Husband {HisName}, is my Master.
    My Husband {HisName}, is my King.
    My Husband {HisName}, is my Boss.
    My Husband {HisName}, has complete control over me.
    My Husband {HisName}, is superior over me.
    My Husband {HisName}, is dominant over me.
    My Husband {HisName}, has authority over me.
    My Husband {HisName}, is in charge of me.
    My Husband {HisName}, makes decisions for me.
    My Husband {HisName}, is head of the family.
    I always show respect, to my Husband {HisName}.
    God commands me, to respect my Husband {HisName}.
    I am submissive, to my Husband {HisName}.
    I like being submissive, to my Husband {HisName}.
    I am happy being submissive, to my Husband {HisName}.
    I love being, my Husband {HisName}’s submissive wife.
    My fantasy, is being my Husband {HisName}’s, submissive wife.
    I do everything, my Husband {HisName} says.
    I follow, my Husband {HisName}’s orders.
    I love to obey, my Husband {HisName}.
    I am happy to obey, my Husband {HisName}.
    God commands me, to obey my Husband {HisName}.
    My purpose in life, is to obey my Husband {HisName}.
    I always obey, my Husband {HisName}.
    I enjoy pleasing, my Husband {HisName}.
    I like to satisfy, my Husband {HisName}’s desires.
    I love making, my Husband {HisName} happy.
    I need to do everything, to keep my Husband {HisName} happy.
    My greatest desire, is to make my Husband {HisName} happy.
    My priority in life, is to make my Husband {HisName} happy.

    I made, a vow to God.
    I love, honor, and obey my Husband {HisName}.
    My vows, are for better, or for worse.
    {HisName} is the best Husband, I could ever have.
    Pleasing {HisName}, serves God.
    Serving {HisName}, pleases God.
    I want to be, with my Husband {HisName}.
    I have, feelings for {HisName}.
    You have, feelings for your Husband.
    I am comfortable, with my Husband.
    I love {HisName}, with all my heart.
    I am in love with {HisName}.
    {HisName} and I, are meant to be together.
    {HisName} loves me, and I love {HisName}.
    My Husband, is an attractive man.
    I feel attracted to {HisName}.
    You want {HisName}, to be part of your life.
    I want {HisName}, in my life.
    I feel good, when I am with {HisName}.
    I feel safe with {HisName}, because he loves me.
    I have, feelings for {HisName}.
    {HisName} and I, belong together.
    Being with my Husband, is wonderful.
    Every time I am with {HisName}, I become closer to him.
    {HisName}, is the man of my dreams.

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    03/02/2017 at 5:38 pm

    I would cut that down to a fraction of its size, and focus on her commitment and how great it is to be with you. I would also dial back the “my husband, {hisname}” structure.

    I like being submissive, to my Husband {HisName}.
    I am happy being submissive, to my Husband.
    I love being, {HisName}’s submissive wife.

    My fantasy, is being {HisName}’s, submissive wife.
    I need to be a good, submissive, wife.
    I want to be a better wife for {HisName}.

    I made, a vow to God.
    I love, honor, and obey my Husband.
    My vows, are for better, or for worse.

    I am happy to obey, {HisName}.
    God commands me, to obey my Husband.

    {HisName} is the best Husband, I could ever have.
    Pleasing {HisName}, serves God.
    Serving {HisName}, pleases God.

    I want to be, with my Husband {HisName}.
    I feel good, when I am with {HisName}.
    I feel safe with {HisName}, because he loves me.

    Every time I am with {HisName}, I become closer to him.
    {HisName}, is the man of my dreams.

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    03/03/2017 at 2:50 am

    I missed these three lines that you had because they were buried so deeply. I would include them as well…


    I love {HisName}, with all my heart.
    I am in love with {HisName}.
    {HisName} and I, are meant to be together.

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    03/03/2017 at 7:34 am

    Thanks Fizbin.

    I feel that would be quite appropriate at this point.

    Funny thing is she was all lovey dovey and calling me by my pet name again today. Kinda reverted back to the good it’s been over the last few months.

    I shall put this in place and report back.

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    03/04/2017 at 4:30 am

    Others have found that there is usually a quick recovery from an occasional regression. She might still react to a “mistake”, but be quicker to forgive and forget, as well as do so more completely. However, we rarely get a glimpse of what is actually going on inside their heads. Confusion about feelings is probably to be expected during one of these regressions.

    Looking forward to ongoing reports!

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    03/05/2017 at 7:07 am

    Thank you again Fizbin, your contribution is invaluable. I have implemented the shortened script.

    This is the final version.

    
    <SILENCE MSEC="1500" />
    I like being submissive, to my husband.
    I am happy being submissive, to my husband.
    I love being {HisName}’s, submissive wife.
    
    My fantasy is being {HisName}’s, submissive wife.
    I need to be a good, submissive wife.
    I want, to be a better wife for {HisName}.
    
    I made a vow, to God.
    I love, honor, and obey my husband.
    My vows, are for better, or for worse.
    
    I am happy, to obey {HisName}.
    God commands me, to obey my husband.
    
    {HisName}, is the best husband, I could ever have.
    Pleasing {HisName}, serves God.
    Serving {HisName}, pleases God.
    
    I want to be, with {HisName}.
    I feel good, when I am with {HisName}.
    I feel safe with {HisName}, because he loves me.
    
    Every time I am with {HisName}, I become closer to him.
    {HisName}, is the man of my dreams.
    I have, feelings, for {HisName}.
    
    I love {HisName}, with all my heart.
    I am in love, with {HisName}.
    {HisName} and I, are meant to be together.
    <SILENCE MSEC="3000" />
    
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    03/05/2017 at 7:27 am

    Looks like a winner. Keep us posted!

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