Oz’s Journal

[Oz]

02/13/2015 at 6:58 am

Hi, fairly new here, but reading up on old threads and gaining tons on useful info. I figured I’d document some findings and observations.

Info: Married couple late 30’s, very happy. Wife is already pretty submissive and generally we are doing well.

Goal: I’d like to see some improvements on her sexual desire & seeking adventure. We have sex a couple times a week, but my drive is higher then hers, not only would I like more sex, but different things like (in no particular order, bj’s, threesomes, sex in public, dressing a tad more slutty) basically just be more wild and daring.

She’s a housewife, so I’ve set up mp3 players w/ speakers on loop in the rooms she’s pretty much spends 80% of her day in, all silents

[Oz]

02/13/2015 at 7:05 am

Observations so far;

I started first week of February, played Amy Converter silent for 1 week, and while the converter doesn’t give any commands, I did notice more touching from her, like cuddling, and holding hands, not sure why, but I’ll take it.

Week2, stopped Amy Converter, now only playing Submissive Thoughts Wife…I must say I just finished first week, and I’m seeing a couple of subtle changes in her. This week she on a couple of occasions initiated sex, which she normally doesn’t, I have to initiate, but she always complies but only after I start.

Secondly, there were a couple minor things that happened at the house and when I expressed my dissatisfaction, she was very apologetic, so I’m seeing a few subtle changes.

I think I’ll continue playing STW by itself, I don’t wanna jump too quick into action scripts like CS and have a backlash, I’m also thinking of adding My Husband is My Master. It seems to me like a perfect bridge between being submissive to more control.

Any advice from other members always appreciated

[LordIceWing]

02/13/2015 at 2:05 pm

Hi, welcome aboard..

I’ll be honest, unless SHE is interested in a threesome (not agreeing with you if you bring it up, but bringing it up on her own), I’d stay the HELL away from that area altogether.

You want to bring jealousy, a sense of betrayal and WAY more trouble than it’s worth into your relationship, sure, feel free. But, ask yourself, what’s more important? Maintaining what sounds like a fairly good relationship? Or a fantasy that almost always leads to more trouble than it’s worth?

[Oz]

02/13/2015 at 2:29 pm

LordIceWing, I know exactly what you mean. It’s sort of a mutual thing. We’ve discussed it before and talked about it. She’s expressed interested in it, somewhat bi-curious on her side. I’m wondering if perhaps, not immediately but over time subliminals will nudge her over to take action on it.

But I agree, the relationship itself is where the magic is. I won’t do anything to jeopardize it

[LordIceWing]

02/13/2015 at 4:44 pm

I am very glad to hear that…

I’ve watched too many relationships get fraked up because the guy wasn’t happy with what he had, tried to bring another girl into it, counting on ‘the power of the collar’ to make things ok..

I once heard in a M/s D/s seminar, if your girls isn’t interested in poly, and you want to look for a second, you’re better off just saving time and looking for two new girls, cause you’re going to lose the one you’ve got. And, although I don’t think much of the guy who said it (he hurt a LOT of girls emotionally, and in my opinion is a predator and the kind of ‘master’ the lifestyle can do without), that always stuck in my head and has been proven true repeatedly.

[Oz]

02/15/2015 at 8:26 am

thinks continue to progress. We’re on day 11 of STW file. Still just sticking with 1 file. Thinking about adding a second not sure yet.

She’s asking for my opinion more, and if she senses I’m not please she’ll actually apologize which is a bit new.

[Tap]

02/15/2015 at 8:43 am

It looks like you are making good progress. One file is the best to see the best results. Two files are acceptable, but anything more than 2 at one time may be overload for her brain.

[Oz]

02/16/2015 at 3:24 pm

thanks Tap. I have been getting solid subtle results with STW. Today I was browsing old threads and came across a topic where some guys had better luck on obey files as opposed to submission. I’m seriously debating running two files;

1) STW (submission)
2) My Husband is My Master (obey commands)

Perhaps I’ll run those together in a nonstop loop for at least a month before I introduce action files such as wife cs for example.

[Oz]

02/19/2015 at 5:06 am

Still seeing great results. I’m on week 4 of STW. Generally more affectionate, she holds man hand a lot more then usual. Also still very apologetic and goes out of her way to please me. I am seeing dramatic changes in behavior. This excites me as I plan to move to action files in a few weeks.

[Fizbin]

02/19/2015 at 7:02 pm

@Oz said:

thanks Tap. I have been getting solid subtle results with STW. Today I was browsing old threads and came across a topic where some guys had better luck on obey files as opposed to submission. I’m seriously debating running two files;

1) STW (submission)
2) My Husband is My Master (obey commands)

Perhaps I’ll run those together in a nonstop loop for at least a month before I introduce action files such as wife cs for example.

Just a quick note. If you have the classic STW file, that actually includes a ‘My husband is my master’ line. I don’t remember if the new, “improved” version does.

[Oz]

02/20/2015 at 7:31 am

Fizbin,

Reading the script for STW, it does not have any use of word master at all.

Update: So 3 days ago I went ahead and added My Husband is My Master along w/ STW. STW has been running for 3 weeks, and now just added the second file to it. Couple of quick observations;

1) We were talking about where to eat dinner, and I asked her what she wanted, and he reply was “why don’t you choose, I want you to be more forceful” she said this not in a pissed off kind of mood, but rather heartfelt. She doesn’t normally use those words

2) She is WAY MORE touchy feeliy and affectionate then before, ever since STW file was introduced.

[Fizbin]

02/21/2015 at 3:43 am

Sounds like the new one, then. It also sounds like it is bringing you some good success! Keep it up…

[Oz]

02/23/2015 at 1:10 pm

not a whole lot new to report, however last 2 nights we’ve both been a little restless during sleep. I wonder if it’s the My Husband is my Master file. Maybe because it introduces some new language such as slave/master. Perhaps the subconscious is fighting back?

Or might just be coincidence, but will continue monitoring.

[Oz]

02/27/2015 at 5:19 pm

been a few more days now, it seems both of our sleep patterns got a bit upset for about 2-3 days. But it’s all fine now. I gotta wonder if it was coincidence to perhaps subconscious fighting back at master/slave file?

one very interesting thing. Wife and I were joking around last night, and I was trying to make a point about some random thing, and in a jokingly manner she says you think you’re the master don’t you. You thing I’m your slave.

Now, I probably had a look on my face like WTF, like I’m thinking oh shit is she onto my game? lol. But it was brief and in a total joking manner. She didn’t seem offended, just kinda blurted it out. And believe me neither my nor I have ever used the words master/slave in regards to our relationship.

This might have been my first “this stuff really works” moment. Can’t wait for more results.

[Tap]

02/27/2015 at 8:03 pm

Yes it means she’s definitely hearing the subliminals. When I first started, I had moments like this as well. There is no other way she would think of you being her master and her as a slave other than your subliminals are reaching her subconscious.

I used to use slave affirmations a lot in my customs. A similar moment to yours was when my wife commented to her friends during some conversation that she is like my slave in a joking way. Since then I’ve taken it out mainly for moral/religious concerns, but am thinking about adding it back.

[Oz]

03/30/2015 at 6:17 am

been a busy few weeks with work, so a little slow on updates.

However for past month I’ve been running “His Happiness” + “I like Sex”

for first 2 weeks, didn’t notice anything, other then general compliance and overall nice attitude, however for the past 2 weeks we have had tons of sex, matter of fact yesterday 3 times, I can’t even recall the last time we had multiple sessions in a day. I am thinking of adding wife cs file, and taking out i like sex, it really has seemed to work on her

[Fizbin]

03/31/2015 at 2:50 am

Congrats on your continued success! That’s really all any of us could ask for.

[Qwerty]

03/31/2015 at 8:22 am

Oz,
Great to hear that you are having such great success but don’t fall into the trap of switching out files to early. It is great that she has become receptive to the subliminals, but it has been my experience and that of other on the site that you need to continue using the file for several weeks or even months before the new attitude takes. If you switch off to early you will see a sliding back to her original position. Remember subliminals are a marathon not a sprint. Many of us here have had set backs because we became impatient, slow and steady wins the race here and sounds like you will be getting at least some reward for your patience thanks to your wife’s new found libido.

[seekenq]

03/31/2015 at 3:29 pm

Oz,

Congrats! sound like things are working well.
I would echo the suggestions of others and stay the course with ILS and HH for at least couple of weeks more.
When you are seeing consistent results for a while (as opposed to the first time something happened) then consider changing.

In the interim give lots of positive feedback when she responds to the subliminal messages.
Giving her lots of positive feedback helps “set” the behavior you are looking for.

Another idea you >>might << want to consider is to build a play list that gradually introduces a new script then fade out the others.
The idea here is to play certain scripts several times in a row and others less often.

Example 8 week playlist:

Week 1/2 – ILS, ILS (copy1), ILS (copy2),ILS (copy 3) HH, HH (copy 1), HH (copy 2), HH (copy 3), WCS

Week 3/4 – ILS, ILS (copy1), ILS (copy2), WCS, HH, HH (copy 1), HH (copy 2), WCS (copy 1)

Week 5/6 – ILS, ILS (copy1), WCS, WCS (copy1), HH, HH (copy 1), WCS (copy 2), WCS (copy3)

Week 7/8 – ILS, WCS, WCS (copy1), HH, WCS (copy 2), WCS (copy3), ILS (copy 1), WCS (copy 3), WCS (copy 4),

At some point you might want to consider developing your own scripts.
You will find lot’s of support here in the group to help you create and refine them.

Doing custom scripts gives you the flexibility to have a base script (long term goals like ILS and HH) that you run all the time plus a separate short term script focusing on a specific near term goal (WCS).
Once you see the desired short term goals get where you want them you can move a couple of those short term lines into your long term script provide continual low level reinforcement.
This gives you two custom scripts which allowing gradual changes rather than having to drop one script completely in order to add another.

[Oz]

04/02/2015 at 9:36 am

Qwerty & seekenq,

Thank you so much. You are absolutely right, I remember reading old threads and the biggest rookie mistake is to move onto something else too quickly.

seekenq, I really like your suggesiton on a base script. I think in a few weeks I will take time to create one. His Happiness + I love sex are pretty much why I got into this, now that I think about it, I always want her to listen to these files.

Her being happy seeing me happy + increased libido, that’s all I desire…sounds like a perfect base file to make, thanks again

[Oz]

04/10/2015 at 4:28 am

so I took some advice from seekenq & other members especially Tap as I used his script to form mines. My thought was to create a base script that I would always run. Thus far, my best results have come from (STW, My Husband is My Master, His Happiness, & I love Sex)

So I thought I’d make a base script by combining the 4 of them, I’d love feedback on if I’m in the wrong direction or somewhat on right path before I make the file, this is my first stab at a custom.

My husband is my master.

I will do anything for my husband.

I am my husband’s property.

I am my husband’s sex slave.

Slaves r for sexual pleasure.

I like being my husband’s sex slave.

I am happy being my husband’s sex slave.

Being my husband’s sex slave is my fantasy.

Being my husband’s sex slave makes me lose weight.

Being my husband’s sex slave makes me look beautiful.

Being my husband’s sex slave makes me more intelligent.

I like to satisfy my husband.

Satisfying my husband is my goal in life.

I love to satisfy all my husband’s sexual desires.

I enjoy making my husband happy.

Making my husband happy gives me happiness.

I enjoy doing what I am told.

My husband is always right.

God commands me to obey my husband.

I like dressing sexy for my husband.

I love wearing thongs.

I love to do everything my husband says.

I enjoy obeying my husband.

I am very happy to obey my husband.

Obeying my husband gives me confidence.

My husband is always right.

I am a submissive wife.

I love to be submissive to my husband.

A good wife is submissive.

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I’d love feedback, too long? too diluted in message?

[Tap]

04/10/2015 at 5:33 pm

It looks good, concise, and not too long. My only suggestion is to stay away from future tense and stick with present tense:

I do anything for my husband.

[Oz]

04/12/2015 at 7:45 am

Thanks Tap, didn’t see that line at all. A huge portion of my script was based on your script.

[Tap]

04/12/2015 at 6:43 pm

Yes, but I did get many of the affirmations from Trainer’s scripts so he deserves much of the credit. I just chose the ones that I liked from each of his subliminals and combined them into one.

[Fizbin]

04/12/2015 at 8:26 pm

We all borrow heavily from one another. “Standing on the shoulders of giants”, I believe it is called