My husband’s wife

[tonguester4_69]

02/02/2014 at 11:24 pm

This is a new script I’m considering running 24/7 in our living room. It’s purpose is to get her actions to line up with what I know she believes, already.before I create it I’d like some feedback, on possible unintended consequences. My sons are pretty regularly in the room, many times talking with my wife.So here it is: I am my husband’s wife. My husband defines me. His opinion of me is all that matters. If I am beautiful to him , I am beautiful. If I am sexy to him, I am sexy. His wants and desires for me are all that matter. I am one with my husband. He is my guide, my protector. It is safe to give control of my life to my husband. It is right to give myself to him, body and soul. It is right to be submissive to my husband. I have always known this.My husband is my master, my authority figure. My husband is responsible for guiding me. I am responsible to submit to his guidance. The world tells me not to listen to my husband,but friendship with the world is enmity with God. The world does not care for me. I am more precious to my husband than anyone in the world. I will submit to God’s design for my marriage. I will conform to my husband’s goals for us. I will be whatever he asks of me, because he cares for me. I will dress the way he likes. I will speak in a way that pleases him. I want to learn to be the best wife, the best lover, the best companion, I can be.

[Fizbin]

02/03/2014 at 12:58 am

Hopefully this is cleaned up. (The editor got changed again…)

I am my husband’s wife.
My husband defines me.
His opinion of me is all that matters.
If I am beautiful to him , I am beautiful.
If I am sexy to him, I am sexy.
His wants and desires for me are all that matter.
I am one with my husband.
He is my guide, my protector.
It is safe to give control of my life to my husband.
It is right to give myself to him, body and soul.
It is right to be submissive to my husband.
I have always known this.
My husband is my master, my authority figure.
My husband is responsible for guiding me.
I am responsible to submit to his guidance.
The world tells me not to listen to my husband, but friendship with the world is enmity with God.
The world does not care for me.
I am more precious to my husband than anyone in the world.
I will submit to God’s design for my marriage.
I will conform to my husband’s goals for us.
I will be whatever he asks of me, because he cares for me.
I will dress the way he likes.
I will speak in a way that pleases him.
I want to learn to be the best wife, the best lover, the best companion, I can be.

[Fizbin]

02/03/2014 at 1:09 am

I’ll have to think about the script itself.
I’m still not a big fan of playing the files around kids, though these affirmations are less troublesome than most.
First gut reaction is that the ideas are good, but the language could use a little cleanup.

[eldrin81]

02/03/2014 at 1:33 am

Not suer about the numerous If statements myself. I think that the sub. handles conditionals somewhat, but still not as good as regular statements. Also there is alot of Him’s and He’s throughout as the main subject of a sentence, which might make it nebulous some of the time who that is referring to. You want to be 100% clear who you are referring to and take no chances that she might think of some other him. Remember you are talking to her subconcious, slowly, with pauses.

[tonguester4_69]

02/03/2014 at 2:29 am

Actual file will probably have my name in many of those he and him spots. I did think about the condirionals. What I’m going for is a type of break-up script which encourages her to listen to and value my opinion over anyone else.Maybe need to re-think this. By the way, my boys that I’m talking about are 21 and up, that will be around these. Another project I’m considering is writing one for them to help with family harmony.

[eldrin81]

02/03/2014 at 1:55 pm

Maybe convert those to these three lines:

NAME’s compliments always make me feel beautiful.
NAME’s compliments always make me feel sexy.
NAME’s opinion is the only one that matters.

[eldrin81]

02/03/2014 at 2:00 pm

Additionally this line is a negative and verbose:
The world tells me not to listen to my husband, but friendship with the world is enmity with God.
Suggestion (some or all):
I always listen to my husband.
I value my husband’s opinion the most.
God wants me to always listen to my husband.
My husband’s opinion comes first.
My husband is more important than anyone.

Keep it about the positive of what you want and not about telling her No or that others are bad.

[eldrin81]

02/03/2014 at 2:08 pm

This is how I would change it, without racking up too many extra lines. Deleted the first line as well, because she knows she is your wife.

My husband defines me.
NAME’s opinion of me is all that matters.
NAME’s compliments always make me feel beautiful and sexy.
NAME’s wants and desires for me are all that matter.
I am one with my husband.
NAME is my guide, my protector.
It is safe to give control of my life to my husband.
It is right to give myself to NAME, body and soul.
It is right to be submissive to my husband.
I have always known this.
My husband is my master, my authority figure.
My husband is responsible for guiding me.
I am responsible to submit to NAME’s guidance.
I always listen to my husband.
God wants me to listen to my husband.
My husband is the most important in the world.
I am more precious to my husband than anyone in the world.
I will submit to God’s design for my marriage.
I will conform to my husband’s goals for us.
I will be whatever NAME asks of me, because NAME cares for me.
I will dress the way NAME likes.
I will speak in a way that pleases NAME.
I want to learn to be the best wife, the best lover, the best companion, I can be.

[tonguester4_69]

02/03/2014 at 3:25 pm

This is one that’s hard for me, in that there are biblical concepts I want to work into it, that my wife knows and understands.I wonder if some of this, maybe the whole concept is redundant in light of my Jesus as Lord file.Maybe this would be just the file to try and have my wife read.The problem with any TTS voice no matter how good, is that you can’t emphasize any particular aspect of an affirmation.Pondering this, comes to me maybe this should be a collaboration effort between myself and my wife. She admits that this is a problem for her, and allowing her some input may help make the file more effective. The goal here is not to get what I want, but to make our marriage closer to the way I see God’s design to be. It just so happens that, I see a lot of what I want in that view.Like I said before will have to think long and hard on this one.

[J66R]

02/03/2014 at 3:57 pm

I struggled with the same issues, my wife actually having taught Sunday School and Youth Bible classes, therefore being very familiar with biblical phraseology.

I settled on a set of phrases that were decidedly positive, essentially as follows:

??? Pleases God.
??? pleases my husband.
??? pleases me.

I also use some conditional statements.

God is pleased when I ???
My husband is pleased when I ???
I am pleased when I ???

[seekenq]

02/03/2014 at 4:09 pm

You could try switching voices /pitch / speed for the sections where you want more emphases.
Echo also could work if you are not already using it.

There were some good example scripts that showed how to change voices on the forums a few months ago.
I’m pressed for time right now but will see if I can find them and point you to them.

[tonguester4_69]

02/03/2014 at 4:43 pm

The more I think about this the more I like the idea of having my wife collaborate with me on this, and then read it aloud. I like that in reading and agreeing that the affirmations are true and right, she is giving her consent to be influenced in these areas.It would foster a sense of trust and unity of purpose that would enhance the subliminals.

[tonguester4_69]

02/05/2014 at 5:50 am

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.After thinking and praying about it, I decided to let this script,alone for awhile. Instead I decided to continue with my Jesus as lord file in the LR 24/7 and wrote a very short file to supplement it. I’ll post it under t’s title, “From the Abundance of the Heart”.
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[Fizbin]

02/05/2014 at 12:41 pm

I think that is a good choice for now.

When you decide to get collaborative, rather than coming to her with a script in hand and looking for edits, I would ask her what aspects of your marriage and relationship, or even personal areas, she feels she needs help with. Then incorporate those into a script (or scripts) that addresses them in a way that you feel would be most beneficial.

Don’t necessarily share the actual affirmations with her, as there has been some evidence that the subject knowing the exact text can be counterproductive. Rather, just reassure her that anything you incorporate is based on her input, and for the betterment of both her and your marriage as a whole. If you have been successful in instilling a belief in you as a leader, that should be enough to make her content with the process.

[tonguester4_69]

02/08/2014 at 9:02 pm

I decided to take you advice, about asking her where she thought she needed to improve today Fizbin, and got an interesting answer. Her response was in her communication to me, specifically sexually foremost, and also in making sure she understands what I mean instead of assuming negative motivations. As an example, I had asked her opinion on mental and verbal abuse claims by women, expressing that I thought for the most part they were bogus.Not that it doesn’t happen, but too often women use the victim card, claiming it to be manipulative.Much like feminists claim all sex with men is rape.Her response was to ask if I thought it doesn’t happen, which of course it does, my point was that when women play that victim card, it make it hard for men to tell true abuse from feigned. She also said she had been focusing on that particular aspect, which I had noticed,( so an opportunity for positive reinforcement). As a result will be working on a very focused script to address, her telling me how much she desires me sexually, and assuming positive intentions when I speak.

[Fizbin]

02/09/2014 at 11:01 am

That is interesting. I like the way you approached this. I agree that misunderstanding of intent is one of the biggest hurdles in communication. Hopefully you were able to pick up on some of the language she used to describe things, and which terms had the most positive emotional associations for her.

Over all, did she seem to like/accept this approach to things?

[tonguester4_69]

02/09/2014 at 5:19 pm

She seemed much more settled. I did not tell her I was writing a subliminal addressing this.She just knows that I am playing subliminals for her to improve our marriage. She also, knows that when I ask questions it’s to know what to focus on. A lot of the style I write my scripts are a result of the way my wife talks about the issues. For example her phrase for being horny, is being “stirred up”. One day when I asked if she was aroused,her reply was, ” I woke up thinking about mandrakes an raisin cakes” referring to a bible study we had listened to on Song of Solomon.Incidentally, that gives me an idea of words to use as triggers,for arousal and possibly orgasm, since these are very unusual phrases, but she already associates them with sexual desire.