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[deathsdemise1]

03/27/2015 at 8:30 pm

so from what ican see it is better to start with just the converter and persay the submissive sublims then going start to the take overs and it seems like it all shows results around two weeks am i right so far?

But my question is this should i play the schedule sub or should i start with the my husband is my master?

and if should start the reinforcement of my control after i notice the changes and the best way to do that would be?

[Fizbin]

03/28/2015 at 3:45 am

Welcome!

Without more details regarding where you are (how you got there wouldn’t hurt, either), compared to where you want to be in your relationship, it is hard to propose an exact program. However, there are some guiding principles:
1. Patience is a virtue. It can take weeks or months before you see any noticeable results.
2. Keep it simple. Throwing too much at her at one time will slow, or even prevent, uptake.
3. Corollary to 1&2. Stay consistent. Especially at first, don’t rotate through files. Pick one (maybe two if they are related), and stick with it until you get results.
4. Go slow. You aren’t going to move her from buttoned up prude to swinging on the nude beach in one step!

As for the converters, they are unique in that they don’t have any directly observable effects. Their goal is to get the subject accustomed, even addicted, to listening. Not an easy thing to measure, and many here have skipped them entirely. But if you choose to use one, it is probably safe to assume you need at least 2 weeks to a month for it to “take”.

So, once again, welcome to the first stage of a great adventure! Please, feel free to post any other questions, background, and/or results!

[deathsdemise1]

03/28/2015 at 7:10 pm

well it is pretty simple she gets too stressed over anything but is too independant to let me help so we looked around and found this site and we both like the husband master sub that we found so she agreed and i thought that if i ran that and did the schedule one it would help her keep calm more and i am running the rain converter and the rain submissive sublims right now. but how should i approach the time when i show my control should i do like the maid story and show her the punishment or would that be a step in the wrong direction?

And thanks for the welcome

[trainer81]

03/28/2015 at 7:16 pm

Okay if this is something you both agree to. This will make it so much easier

But remember to go slow for best results. Submissive thoughts wife should be perfect starting point for her.

The rain converter that’s a nice touch to

Maybe later if you want I can make you a custom and help with her stress issues. Custom subliminal are on sale right now so, let me know anytime or if you have questions.

Trainer81

[Fizbin]

03/29/2015 at 5:14 am

At this point, I would leave punishment out of it. Also, it is great that you have active buy in from your wife!

Is she working with you to select the files, or now that you have started, do you have the freedom to choose? Also, is she reviewing the scripts?

As I mentioned in my first message, beware of the trap of trying to accomplish too much, too fast. As Trainer said, Submissive Thoughts Wife is a great start (Personally, I prefer the classic to the new one, but that’s just me).

Two other files you might consider are: Relying (on) My Husband, and the Husband version of My Decision Maker. These two files are an almost spot on match for what you described as the primary issue. However, I still suggest working into them through general pleasing, submission, and obedience. (Submissive Thoughts and His Happiness are the two foundational pieces that many people here have had great success with).

The proactive steps you can take here are to actually make sure you are both reliable and decisive when she does start responding. Let her know you are pleased when she complies, and disappointed if she does not. That should be all the reinforcement you need, unless she has told you she wants more of an active “Domestic Discipline” or “Taken in Hand” type relationship.

The key is, you don’t have to be domineering to be dominant, just be worthy of being submitted to.

[deathsdemise1]

03/29/2015 at 3:13 pm

thank you both this has helped alot