Ideas from a womans perspective.

[ELFWITCH]

07/26/2012 at 4:06 pm

Hi there! In reading through the posts on the old forum last night (I was away from it for quite some time, so this is new to me) I was inspired to share a couple of thoughts I had about things to say to a woman’s subconscious that, in my opinion, we really need to hear.

For example, if you want a woman to be naked around you more, rather than addressing what you want, which is nakedness, you have to know the real issue for us is being comfortable with our bodies. We are never going to want to spend a lot of time naked until we feel beautiful the way we are.

So if you want the woman naked (all the time, some of the time) the place to start is with a subliminal that imparts the following basic message:

I am beautiful
My body is beautiful
I am beautiful in my body
I love my body
I love taking care of my body

etc.

I hope you understand what I mean. I love these subliminals and use them all the time, but the one limitation I see is that they are, of course, written from a man’s perspective, rather than a woman’s. Women aren’t necessarily anywhere near as prudish as men think we are, we just need to feel good about ourselves, and that means feeling good about our bodies, which is pretty damned hard to do in this society.

Notice I did not include a phrase that says “I love my body just the way it is.” I would suggest including a phrase like that if you really do love her body just the way it is, but not if you want her to lose weight. I’d put in a phrase about taking better care of her body if you want your woman to lose weight (and use the Losing Weight subliminal).

Any subliminal you can create that could pay attention to our psyches would be good. I think a woman’s inner world focuses too much on the negative, as you well know, hence the endless bitching you hear from us (we somehow get the idea that everything on the planet needs to be fixed, that nothing’s okay the way it is, usually right around the time we have kids, it seems, and in my opinion, it’s a bad habit to think like that, and a lot of the social messages women hear just make that problem worse—I’m not talking about feminism, I’m talking about simpler things, like advertising—1001 ways in which your toilet is not clean enough, stuff like that).

Also, if you are in a situation in your marriage where you’re trying to rebuild trust, it has been my experience that sex DIES if the woman cannot trust you. I’d craft a subliminal about how trustworthy a man is, how she can trust you.

I hope this helps. That’s my goal here, is to be helpful.

[Islander711]

07/26/2012 at 8:00 pm

Excelent insite, thank you.

[sdalie]

07/27/2012 at 2:17 pm

Thanks so much for your thoughts!
A womans point of view is appreciated.

[ELFWITCH]

08/11/2012 at 11:02 pm

You are totally welcome. I’m glad i could help.