Ok let me explain. My granddaughter is a problem. She is basically a good girl but has this annoying problem, I don’t think she understands the right and wrong of lies. She will tell you anything to get her way. She will then tell someone else a different story. For a wild made up example, 1. her boyfriend was cheating so she left him. 2 She caught him abusing her baby so she left 3.he beat her so she left and so on each to a different person. The biggest problem is that she is really good at it and catching her at it is very difficult. (My ex would have a PHD in this if they awarded them for that behavior) I would like to bring this site up to her boyfriend so he could use a script to get her to be more honest and settle down. However, I don’t see a script here that would do what she needs and I do not trust my script writing abilities enough to do my own. Anyone have any ideas about what to do for a script to address this form of behavior?
OK, first, I presume she isn’t actually running around telling folks that her BF is abusive in ANY of these ways (or others). Or if she is, you have solid evidence that it isn’t actually happening, and that you know him well enough to consider him a “keeper”. Otherwise you wouldn’t even be considering helping him.
Second, directly introducing this site to another person can be risky. Many folks will be repulsed by the very idea, no matter what their situation. You either need to be very sure of his reaction, or find a subtle way to make him aware of it without that awareness being traceable back to yourself. Otherwise you could be opening yourself up to a world of hurt.
Finally, the kind of behavior you’re describing may not be something that can be directly addressed by these methods at all. That doesn’t mean, however, that you can’t address them in a more indirect fashion. For example, you could set up a program focused on respect, obedience, honesty, and being a Good Girl.
I was just using the abuse as an example of a behavior, not a report of an actual happening. They stopped by yesterday and I had a pretty good chat with them and determined that he is definitely not a candidate for this site. I could be wrong but that was the impression I got. After further consideration I think providing her with a cd of music she likes with a sub in the background might help. But I need to to do a lot of considering on this yet.
Making a custom mix disk/chip is definitely an option. Make sure the message on each song is self contained, and you should be good. You might add a couple of affirmations like: “I love grandpa’s music mixes” and “I want grandpa to make more music for me”
