ok i have started this when i posted and seems to be working unsure if its because we have an inspection but we watched a movie and she wasnt on her phone.
just got speakers so hopefully they are louder so she can hear,
I’m glad you are seeing behavior you like. Not sure what the “inspection” you mention is all about. Are you saying there are other factors that might have influenced her behavior?
I would be cautions about claiming victory after just one week and one movie unless there are other changes that are consistent with the affirmations in the file. (I presume you mean that you are using the break up file Trainer mentioned, and not a custom at this point…) For example, there are a lot of affirmations around obedience and actually doing things for you. Are you seeing any sign of these taking hold?
To stop undesirable behaviors is tricky since you can’t really use negative statements.
The subconscious ends up translating “I don’t want to use my phone” to “I want to use my phone”
“un” words should also be avoided “unhappy” gets translated to “happy”
I like to use constructs that make the bad behaviors get smaller, fade away, dimmer, weaker, etc.
Then contrast it with the good behavior which is bigger, better, brighter, stronger, etc.
You can also tie the bad behavior to negative feelings.
Talking on the phone feels bad.
I feel bad talking on the phone.
I am nervous talking in the phone.
Talking on the phone is boring.
Note that “ing words” seem to be effective in scripts but phrases like “when I talk” seem to be less so.
Apparently the subconscious does not process temporal relationships well.
I hope this helps.
Keep track of the small changes you see and be sure to give her positive reinforcement when she modifies her behavior in the direction you like.
