Greetings all. My wife and I had a big blow up on Valentine’s Day that continued Saturday morning. At the very end of the argument, she realized what the problem was: she had repressed some of her abusive past, and had realized that her view of sex as a tool to use to manipulate men stemmed from this. She could not be submissive if she was being manipulative. After much tears and attempts at comfort from me, she pulled herself together. Naturally, her period started two hours later, because why wouldn’t we want a little more emotion! We talked several times that weekend, and she really wanted help dealing with 20+ years of wrong attitudes towards sex. I suggested these subliminals, and she jumped at it. I’m currently running the converter and the submissive tracks at night. She insists on being able to hear them, wants to listen, and is actually falling asleep faster than before and sleeping better. Today was the first attempt on my part to initiate intercourse, and she responded beautifully. This afternoon, she came to me in lingerie and woke me from my Sunday afternoon nap for another round, saying “I want to make you happy and please you.” She called me Sir and Master. I’m very okay with all of that! I think a big part of it is how much she wants to change. It’s only been a week, but twice in a day is a really good start I’m thinking. She and I talked in the shower this morning about doing a weekly check to see how she is feeling/thinking because we are dealing with some heavy abuse issues in her past. I love her deeply, and am so proud of how much she wants to work through all of her issues to make our marriage better and be a better, more submissive wife. I’ll try to update this again in a few weeks.
Welcome to the forum.
Sound like you are off to a good start.
Lots of folks here to bounce things off of and get support.
Since she wants to hear them you could use the rain files for now.
Also think about running the silent subliminal programs when ever she get tired of hearing rain / can’t listen to rain files.
If you have/get a gold membership you can write your own files and encode them with rain or other ambient tracks.
Since your wife wants to listen to the files you have a lot of options.
There are some other tools that I have been using for the files I listen to.
I can recommend Neuro Programmer 3 or mind workstation at http://www.transparentcorp.com.
Great for creating very effective audible files win binaural beats for brainwave entrainment.
Welcome to the forum! It’s wonderful that your wife is willing to participate in her training! I have spent over year getting my wife to that point.I woild also second the opinion that a Gold membership would be ideal, as you can then tailor you files to your wife. Also there is a lot of support and experience to draw from in the Gold member forum in writing scripts. So again welcome!
My apologies for the lack of updates. My wife and I have gone from sex 3-4 times per year to 4-5 times per month in the last year! She has been much more submissive in and out of the bedroom, and seeks (and obeys!) my advice before acting on big decisions, both in our home and her career. There are still issues, but she is more and more willing to work through them. We have had four or five MAJOR breakthroughs in dealing with her abusive history, i.e., repressed memories, understand where her resistance to oral comes from, etc. I recently posted a testimonial and was granted prime membership (thank you, Trainer81!) and I’ve made my first recording in my voice. I chose my own voice instead of a computerized one simply because of the amount of talking we’ve done on these issues; she’s already used to hearing some of this stuff from me anyway, so why change it? I just started playing the subliminal I made this week – naturally, her period started on day 1 – so I will keep you posted on how it works.
On a side note, I want to thank all of you who have been so generous as to post your scripts here. Having never written something like this, it was much easier to do having read what more experienced men have written. I borrowed from several of you on this first attempt, and am deeply in your debt.
Using your own voice can be a great thing. My girl is very used to it – for similar reasons to yours – and it works great for her. It works – for HER – muchbetter than those computerized ones. Keep up the good work and let us know how it goes.
Another sexless week, but another breakthrough as well. (That seems to be the pattern for this…) I’ve been playing the custom subliminal every night, all night, right next to her. She woke up with a headache the first two days, but that passed quickly. One of the lines I got from the forum was “Obedience is joy.” When I asked her what obedience is, she immediately responded with “Joy.” We determined this week that her abusive past has given her a negative filter through which she views everything I say and do regarding sex. She’s never admitted or recognized this before. I suggested we write a custom script addressing her attitudes toward sex (specifically towards us discussing sex) and have her record it. She immediately agreed that would be a great way to start! I know these are working and they are having the desired effect. I’ve written a rough draft (which naturally had a bit too much for her on first glance – can’t blame a guy for trying!), but it needs some revision. I really do want her input so we have complete buy-in. Hopefully, we can hash it out tonight and record it tomorrow. I’ll keep you informed of our progress….
If anyone who reads this is getting tired of trying, don’t give up! I’ve been at this for over a year now, and have made significant progress. Keep in mind the sheer volume of crap you are dealing with in her head – abuse, old habits and attitudes, family attitudes and hang-ups, and so on – and keep at it. Believe me, there are days I just want to force the issue and go for broke, but I know that would be counterproductive in the long run and it is the long term I’m interested in.
Congratulations on your success! It is, I think, human nature to shoot for the moon. But you do need a dash of realism. It sounds like you have a great system over all.
Just curious, when she gave the “Joy” response, did you see any kind of emotional connection to the meaning of it? Did you probe her about what that means “to her”?
I did probe about why she responded with “joy.” She said it just came to her as the appropriate response since obedience is commanded by God and obeying God is something in which to take joy. We both take are faith very seriously, so having a bit of biblical backup can only help us both in this. We are going to sit down tonight and work on the script together and hopefully record it tonight.
