Goal for wife needing advice

[ESClaus]

07/07/2015 at 10:14 am

So I have read and read and read and tried out things and then stopped and read some more and have come up with a goal for what I am wanting for my wife and I need your advice as to how to approach it.

A bit of background. My wife and I are very happy and love each other and have discussed her submissiveness and want to work towards her being completely submissive. The issue is she works and needs to be in control at work. Also because of her past relationship with her ex she had to become more dominate and in control.

What I am looking for is a way to get her to switch from her work/in control person to home/with me submissive person.

My thought was to create a script that would make her want to be Minx(her nickname) at home and when around me. Something like this.

I am Minx for my husband.

I want to be Minx for my husband.

My husband wants Minx.

I am Minx.

What matters is what my husband think of me.

I care about being Minx.

My husband wants Minx.

I am happy being Minx.

I want to be Minx for my husband.

I care about being Minx.

You will be Minx for your husband.

I will be Minx for my husband.

I care about being Minx.

My husband want to see Minx.

I am Minx.

I want to be Minx for my husband.

You will be Minx for your husband.

I am Minx.

You will be Minx for your husband.

I am relaxed around my husband when I am Minx.

My husband wants to see Minx.

I am Minx.

You are relaxed around your husband when you are Minx.

I am happy being Minx.

I am comfortable around my husband being Minx.

You are relaxed around your husband when you are Minx.

I am Minx.

You are comfortable around your husband when you are Minx.

I am relaxed around my husband when I am Minx.

Then I look at this and see I am not making her more submissive just making her want to be Minx around me. I am wanting to keep it short as long scripts tend to not be as effective as short ones. So I throw in a submissive script along with this or does anyone have any ideas of how to tweak it to better suit the goal.

Once I get this script nailed down my plan was to put a digital picture frame up at her office so she would listen to this while at work along with at home. We have kids so I wouldn’t play this around the house it would be in the room playing on loop.

Thanks in advance

Claus

[trainer81]

07/07/2015 at 10:42 am

Good I’m glad you found a goal for your wife. Learning to be submissive in the home and needing to be in control at the workplace is going to be tough but it can be done. From my guess, her past relationship with her ex. Something must of happened that’s making it hard for her to submit right?

Create a custom that will help your wife overcome those fears and worries. She loves you and doesn’t want to be hurt again if something where to happen in your relationship.

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Please keep us updated and I hope this helps…

[ESClaus]

07/07/2015 at 1:17 pm

So a bit more of background. She grew up in a household where her parents were into BDSM and swinging. It was hard to believe it until I met her dad and saw the room(no it wasn’t a red room but it did have a swing and lots of toys). Her dad had a dominate personality and she was his princess. He would take care of her and tell her when to eat and would approve of clothes etc… She tells me she liked knowing that she was being taken care of back then. Then she moved out and met her ex and he is just a loser. Instead of taking care of her he would cheat on her and do drugs. This force her to change into a person that had to be in control. She divorce the ex and then lived on her own until we met. So 10 years of being in control and having to do things herself. I can see that she wants to be back in that place of being taken care of but is scared. Here is a conversation we just had about her fear of being a sub.

Claus: What is your fear of being a sub?
Minx: Losing control
Minx: That’s what it always comes down to.
Claus: okay I guess I don’t understand that. Losing control seems general answer to me
Minx: It’s the idea that I won’t have free will. That I will be a caged circus animal that is told when to eat, sleep, have sex everything.
Claus: Is it so bad to be told when to sleep or eat?
Minx: I don’t want to feel like I have to. I want to be able to choose to say no if I want to.

So I need to peel the onion until I get her to be more comfortable with things. Perhaps I should just run submission script for a month and then see where that leads.

[hotaceazn]

07/07/2015 at 1:36 pm

Perhaps you can suggest a safe word. It is often used in BDSM, but perhaps you could modify it and let her know she still has control, and if anytime she doesn’t like the dom/sub life, she can say the safe word and the two of you can discuss things. In the meantime, here is a part of my script you may want to consider (obviously I changed my name to yours):

I want to be submissive.
I am submissive to CLAUS.
You are submissive to CLAUS.
I want to be submissive to CLAUS.
I was born to be submissive to CLAUS.
I am proud to be submissive to CLAUS.
I am a submissive little girl for CLAUS.

This next section may be too much for now, but perhaps you can use the last part now then the rest later:

I want to be dominated by CLAUS.
CLAUS will dominate me.
I want CLAUS to dominate me.
CLAUS’s actions are always right.
I always approve of CLAUS’s actions.

Hope this is helpful. Good luck!

[trainer81]

07/07/2015 at 6:38 pm

A safe word is a good idea and you can start out with limits to. I’m also thinking of something like, I trust my husband…

I’m sure she trusts you already but this is a whole new step of your relationship.

Ease her fears and worries by working on the positive

Hope this helps…

[Tap]

07/08/2015 at 8:54 pm

I would edit your main script heavily to include submissive instead of minx. Thinking of herself as minx does nothing for her being submissive.

[ESClaus]

07/09/2015 at 3:36 pm

So I thought I would post an update. I have been running the following on Silent(since 7/7).

I want to be submissive.

I am submissive to Claus.

You are submissive to Claus.

I want to be submissive to Claus.

I was born to be submissive to Claus.

I am proud to be submissive to Claus.

I am a submissive little girl for Claus.

Claus’s actions are always right.

I always approve of Claus’s actions.

Well today we are having to deal with my cousin’s BS(long story) and she tells me she will deal with him and I deal with finding a new place to live. I tell her okay. Then later I am talking to her and she says she is having a panic attack because she doesn’t want to talk to him. I tell her I will deal with it and give her my plan. She tells me later on she feels better and I asked what changed and she said because I am going to handle it and got a plan.

I might be looking into it too much but it sounds like she wants to be submissive and just struggling with it because of the stress of my cousin and his BS.

[Fizbin]

07/09/2015 at 4:22 pm

While it may be too early to attribute it to the file, a key element of making a woman comfortable with submission is by showing yourself to be worthy of that submission. A big part of that is exhibiting calm leadership in what she sees as a stressful situation, which you did here.

[Tap]

07/09/2015 at 9:35 pm

I like how your script is very small, and your affirmations are short. I think within a week you should see it working and manifesting itself well.

[ELFWITCH]

07/29/2015 at 4:23 pm

I would add that it’s important to keep in mind that for a long, long time in any woman’s life, she has had to do a lot of stuff alone. Women (and I am one) get into the habit of defining ourselves as separate human beings who really can’t rely on others for anything, because we learn that from life experience. Not every woman learns this to the same extent, but if you’ve had damage in your childhood or later on, and have learned to distrust, it’s my opinion (having used these subliminals for years now) that what the subliminal should really be addressing is the lack of trust any woman in this situation feels for men, yes, but for women too.

It’s this societal message that women should be able to do everything on our own, combined with any bad experiences that led to the woman losing trust for men specifically, that is the real problem. It has taken me years to begin to accept that my man can or should do anything for me, and if he fails, as he has in the past, it just confirms any negative beliefs I have about asking him for help. If a man wavers AT ALL the woman is convinced he’s not going to be strong enough to help. I wish women weren’t like this, but it seems to be part of the time we’re living in. Every era has its challenges, and this is a real problem in personal relationships now.

In my opinion, what I’d like to see is a subliminal that specifically addresses trust and doubt, as in “I trust my [fill in the blank or provide name]” and “I never doubt [etc.].” Also, I don’t want to feel like an idiot or have to give up the ground I’ve spent a lifetime fighting for, and therefore be made to feel like I have no worth; I think that idea just sets women back, and will probably meet with a fair amount of resistance subconsciously, unless you want a woman to be afraid of you, and that’s a different kind of relationship.

I’d just focus more on trust and believing in you. That’s usually the first disillusionment women encounter in life, when we have to accept that men aren’t any “better” than we are, they’re just more capable at some things, but they don’t know everything. Unfortunately, knowing this or believing this hasn’t made us “equal,” it’s made women somehow despise men, largely, I believe, because society tells us one thing, that men are superior in every way, but experience tells us almost exactly the opposite. And that is the damage these subliminals have to undo, which is why it can take so long.

I’ve also noticed that I get irritated if I have to listen to the same message over and over, and so I have suggested to Trainer before this to play two or three messages at any one time, because the mind seems to kind of “reel” and resistance is lowered. I would describe this as almost a “drunken” effect.