Every time I notice things I want my wife to improve on, I tweak my customs to include certain things I want her to like. It seems to work out. The way I discovered this technique was her dramatic shift from hating to wash dishes to liking it. We used to have all kinds of fights with her not wanting to wash dishes and saying I should do it, which I didn’t. Now she likes washing dishes, a complete 180. Now everytime she says she doesn’t like something that I want her to like, I add it to my custom and a week or so later, she starts to like that said activity.
Does anyone else do that? I know tweaking subliminals is not recommended but I figure adding a few affirmations to an already long custom won’t make that much of a difference. I just editted my customs again and my long custom increased from 13:30 to 15:30. We’ll see how it goes.
I think i’d be more worried about the length creeping up.
Every new affirmation, even in a long custom, is a tiny bit less efficacy for it, and the others with it. I think we’ve all talked about diminishing returns before, and surely it kicks in eventually.
That said, the custom being a living document is a good thing, in my opinion. I would say the smartest, gentlest, course would be to set a personal “limit” for yourself on duration, and volume of affirmations. At that point, adding new ones, comes with phasing out, or reducing the volume of ones that have really deeply taken hold and become the norm.
I think that is probably a best of both worlds approach, and keeps repetitions high, which is clearly the central requirement to this whole program.
Fiz, yes when I say tweak, I just remake the custom with added affirmations.
FB, you do have a point. I don’t want to get too carried away to the point where my custom is just too massive. When first making my customs, I was worried about that, but now I don’t worry so much about it. The affirmations I add are similar in theme to what I have already. My thinking is, the central part of my custom is the same which she’s used to, and she’ll just learn the added 15 or so affirmations with time.
Heck… she MIGHT even learn the new affirmations faster, as they’ll be surrounded by now comfortable/familiar ideas. Who knows? 🙂
Its worth studying… maybe try a very small controlled experiment by only adding one very specific new affirmation (or a couple lines on the same topic), and see how it plays out?
I have to say I tweek my scripts often. If I think a thought is going to be difficult or I see push back against an idea in a script, then I make it more palletable by pick language that she has excepted from other scripts or she has said then work the preferred language in a small piece at a time, sometimes with intermediate steps.
Yes I do something similar. I examined why my wife had a sudden shift to cleaning and cooking more by look at the affirmations I used for that. I realized a part of it might have been how I emphasized it was an important part and a regular part of her life. Also, they’re simpler smaller statements used. Some of that language was based off of a cleaning script I found on another subliminal website. I then used those same formats for sex and other things. I do feel like the sex part is coming around now albeit slowly.
